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Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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Dec 26, 2017

Do you do what is necessary to manifest miracles in your life? 

 

Would you like to manifest your miracle man?

 

My guest, Debra Poneman, has been teaching and preaching about how to be successful for over 40-years. She is a best-selling Author, Founder of the ‘Yes to Success Seminars’ and Co-Founder of the ‘Your Year of Miracles’ mentoring program. Debra shares the system with us so we can create miracles in our lives and find abundance, deep fulfillment and profound self-love.

 

Treat Everyone as the Most Important Person in the World [4:09]

 

After Debra finished a Yes to Success seminar a young, college-aged girl approached her and asked to be her secretary. Debra knowing that everything happens for a reason said yes and that young girl is now a NY Times Best-Selling Author and the Co-Founder of Your Year of Miracles, Marci Shimoff.

 

How to Create the Right Conditions for Your Man Miracle [10:14]

 

Miracle: a surprising and welcome event that can't be explained by science and is thought to happen by divine grace.

 

Debra says you can not actually create a miracle, you can create the space around you to be ripe for a miracle to occur. 

 

Things to Do to Create and Live in Your Miracle Zone:

 

  1. 1. Practice non-violent communication.
  2. 2. Play the Power of Appreciation game.
  3. 3. Don’t block the light.
  4. 4. Be who you are.
  5. Visualization raises your vibrations!

Be the Person You Want to Attract [26:13]

Debra shares her own personal journey of how practicing forgiveness and kindness kept her in integrity. Being the person you want to attract will bring what, or who, you are looking for into your life.

Find a place of love in your heart and send it out to people you find hard to love.  Check out Your Year Of Miracles

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Your Year of Miracles

Dec 17, 2017

It’s almost the New Year, will your resolution be the same as last year and the year before that?

 

Will you feel shame about eating what you like at a holiday party?

 

Do you binge eat your favorite food because you feel sad?

 

If you answered yes to any of the questions above you need to listen to this show because my guest is an expert at creating sustainable, lasting change. Lydia Wente teaches women how to claim their freedom from the physical and mental woes of food and food struggles. She is also a pioneer in the eating disorder/comedy genre.

 

Lydia has helped lots of women finally be at peace with food.

 

Common Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Improve Their Relationship with Food [3:30]

 

A common mistake women make is trying to manipulate their bodies through a diet or restriction. It’s OK to improve our bodies but it should be done in a peaceful, sustainable, lasting way. When we say no more of our favorite foods it only makes us want it more.

 

Deprivation drives cravings.

 

When we fall off the wagon it distorts our relationship with food. Every time we restrict calories and try to force our bodies to be thinner it actually pushes up our set point weight.

 

Why Do We Base Our Self-Worth on Our Weight? [8:08]

 

Many of us make food a moral choice. Did we do good today or bad today based on what we ate? We make being thinner equate to how good we are doing in life. If we slip up and eat something we deem bad it makes us feel out of integrity with ourselves.

 

Women have so much shame around their food struggles they often don't share their stories.  A woman’s partner may think the ups and downs have something to do with them or the relationship. It creates blocks in intimacy.

 

Detaching morality from food means basing our integrity on things that really matter.

 

How to Find Peace with Food [13:46]

 

Lydia says all the help we need is in our brains. Our relationship with food is just a habit. Once we break the cycle and become aware of the battle going on in our brains, we can use a neuro-hack to go into a place of allowing. When we own that we can have the foods we want then your brain starts to relax and it breaks the spell.

 

Lydia has a collection of ‘Calling Out the Chatter’ videos on Youtube to help women create a new habit of thought around food.

 

You don’t have to fix your whole life to change your relationship with food! 

 

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Lydia Wente

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Dec 10, 2017

Is your guy sending inconsistent signals?

 

If he is confused about what he wants? If so let him go.

 

Life is too short to be someone’s Geisha Girl!

 

Let’s Just Skip to the End [4:17]

 

Julie says she doesn’t understand why the process has to take so long? Why the dance of multiple dates?  After 15 dates, shouldn’t she already know where the relationship is headed?

 

Julie is exhibiting Geisha Girl behaviors. Guys react two ways to Geisha Girls. One, holy crap I have a girlfriend I never signed up for or two, they feel overwhelmed.

 

Making Assumptions About a Guy’s Values [9:53]

 

How do you know if a guy has the same values you desire if you don’t know him long-term? If he hasn’t had a conversation with you or proven any of your assumptions, how do you know he is what you believe him to be?

 

Julie understands that our time on this earth is limited. She wants to know why she should have to wait 6-months to see if the guy is the one. But, by the third date she should share what her expectations are and her timeline to make sure the guys shares the same values and goals. 

 

Ladies, leverage your assertiveness but do it in a feminine way.

 

Does He Have What it Takes or is He F’d Up? [20:19]

 

Julie describes her last interaction with a guy who constantly changes the game. He wants this, but then he feels smothered, blah, blah, blah.

 

Women need emotional safety in order to create true intimacy and he is not giving her any security. If he was really ready to be there for her, it wouldn’t be this hard. The guy’s inconsistency doesn’t make her feel safe.

 

It’s not your job to coach, fix or help a guy!

 

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Dec 3, 2017

How to Avoid Ghosting Before it Happens [03:20]

 

Sanjana was just looking to meet new people when she started communicating with a guy. She hinted towards a long-term relationship if things went well and he agreed. Sanjana allowed herself to play the cool girl, never addressing her needs and letting him lead the relationship. For two years they hung out with no clear direction to where the relationship might be going.

 

When you tell a guy what you want he needs to decide if he is stepping up or stepping out.

 

Lapping Up the Crumbs [12:17]

 

When Sanjana got the courage to tell the guy what she needed from him he may have felt blindsided. He would try to tell her what she wanted to hear to make her happy but he would never fully lean into or follow through with the plans.

 

Don’t Lose Your Dignity [14:18]

 

Sanjana continues to look for closure even after her calls and text go unanswered. She wants to know if she did something wrong but she is tired of expending energy trying to figure it out.

 

But, Sanjana already knows the answer doesn’t she ladies? Why would she want to continue hurting herself by hanging on to the unknown? She needs to let him go, forgive him and get back out there. When you date with dignity you don’t take ghosting personally.

 

Youtube Homework: Look up ‘Swingers movie’ answering machine scene. So you know what not to do!

 

Ghosting on Dating Apps [30:16]

 

Always be the person you want to attract when dating online. If you are not attracted to someone be honest and tell them if they send you a message. Practice good dating karma.

 

Ladies no matter what always remember, you are important, you are loved and you are significant.

 

Quality men do not hide behind dating apps.

 

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Nov 23, 2017

Do you want to be a badass but can’t get out of your own way?

 

Do you want a different life but can’t seem to break on through to the other side?

 

Guest, Amy Ahlers, gives you the tools to be the fantastic, empowered woman you want to be.

 

Amy is the best selling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves and Creator of Inner Mean Girl Reform School. Amy is a certified life coach, who has been in the business for 17 years, her podcast, Momma Truth is inspirational. Amy’s mission is to stop women from being hard on themselves and cultivate the courage to follow their inner wisdom.

 

Why Do Women Bully Themselves? [4:45]

 

Women are harder on themselves than anyone else is on them. The meanest girl is the voice inside our own heads. She is brutal as she compares your worst to everyone else's best, she demands perfection and tells you - you are too fat, skinny, tall, etc. Her volume needs to be turned down. 

 

At age 6 to 7, is when inner dialogue begins and when our inner mean girl is born.

 

You can not kill off your inner mean girl but you can turn down her volume!

 

The 13 Inner Mean Girl Archetypes [9:33]

 

There are 13 Inner Mean Girl archetypes. Not every inner mean girl is mean, some are very, very sneaky.

 

Is your Inner Mean Girl one of these?

 

The Comparison Queen

The Achievement Junkie

The Good Girl

The Rejection Queen

The Perfectionist

 

Find the 8 other Inner Mean Girl Archetypes in Amy’s book, Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves.

 

Draw and name your Inner Mean Girl.

 

How to Turn Down the Volume of Your Inner Mean Girl [25:36]

 

The goal of turning down your Inner Mean Girl’s voice is to find and nurture the voice of your inner wisdom.   

 

Play the Best Case/Worst Case Scenario Game:

  1. a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that can happen if I accept a date? How likely is it to happen?” then, “What's the best thing that can happen?” and “Is it worth the risk?”

   2.    The Wake Up Call 3-Step Process:

a. Ask yourself, “What is my inner mean girl saying?”

b. Close your eyes, take a deep breathe and ask your inner wisdom for guidance.

c. Repeat back your inner wisdom's truth while doing a physical gesture.

Your inner wisdom always tells you the truth.

Men Have Inner Meanies Too [34:36]

Men are hard on themselves too. They are just as nervous to go on a date as you are. The #1 things men are hard on themselves about is financial concerns. They don't want to be a loser.

 

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Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves: Ditch Your Inner Critic and Wake Up Your Inner Superstar

Nov 12, 2017

Do your clothes look the way you feel? We should all be expressing our personal flair, even in a professional environment.

 

Christine Malsbury shares her amazing tips and tricks for expressing your personal identity through your clothes. And believe it or not, it’s all about the quality of the clothes, not the quantity.

 

Christine has spent decades on creative transformations and supporting individuals in institutions in their journey towards "authentic voice", style, beauty and productive systems. In 2015, she launched her Brazen Beauty Movement. Consulting with women on style and wardrobe transformation, professional business development, communication, image, and visibility strategies. She was a Professor at Vassar and her own clothing conundrum led her to create a Girl Boss Closet.

 

Your Clothes Should Match Your Personal Identity [8:47]

 

As a Ph.D., Christine felt she had to look a certain way but it stifled her essence. She says clothing is about personal identity but it’s also about belonging. There is a beauty-industry media complex in the US. Women are exposed to airbrushed beauty or the reaction to it which is ‘sweatpants’.  The middle ground had been obliterated from our national consciousness.

 

The essence of Christine’s Brazen Beauty Movement is that you can be awesome and smart and good at what you do and be pretty, it's all okay. She felt like she couldn't be beautiful and be smart at the same time. She had compounding messages around what women's beauty should be.

 

Quality Over Quantity [17:56]

 

What we wear is a careful dance between fully and authentically expressing who we are and expressing to people strategically what we want them to understand about us.

 

On a date, a woman should feel really good in her clothes. A woman should wear something that makes her feel her best.

 

Buying higher quality pieces and not tons and tons of clothes. The quality is something that gets communicated right away and the price per item goes down the more you wear it.

 

When hiring someone Christine asks herself “ Do they have the visual principals I need in a person?”

 

The Capsule Wardrobe Concept [24:28]

 

The Capsule Concept was popularized by a couple of bloggers who looked at trends from the 70’s. It's taking off in a big way now. The Capsule forces a woman to clarify her style. And to make thoughtful mindful choices.

 

The societal implications of the capsule wardrobe are that it helps you express your beauty and it can be an anti-consumerist stance.

 

Brazen Beauty Tips and Tricks [35:37]

 

1. Feel good in your clothes.

2. Pick one feature to accentuate.

3. Wear color.

 

Coco Chanel said to put on all of your jewelry and just before you leave the house, remove one item. 

 

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Nov 5, 2017

One in three women were sexually abused as children.

And, as a result, your relationships (or lack thereof) as well as any chronic illness are directly impacted by childhood traumas.

My guest, Dr. Meg Haworth Ph.D. has survived sexual abuse, drowning and being struck by lightning. She healed over a dozen illnesses including fibromyalgia. As Founder of Lightning Women, she helps women to overcome the wounds of sexual, physical and emotional abuse and chronic illnesses.  

During the early days of trying to heal herself, Dr. Meg realized her emotions were stuck in her body and part of her was still in the trauma. She tried meditation, yoga, and retreats and while she made progress she still didn’t have the outcome she wanted. It wasn't until she engaged in transpersonal psychology (healing by way of the energy system spirit or soul). that she got through and decides to help others get through too.

Why Can’t We Just Get Over Abuse? [7:24]

It's hard to access the loving part of yourself when you are sick all the time. We find ourselves spinning in the emotional stuff.  And even if you have been in therapy, traditional psychology focuses on the mental and emotional but you stay in your story. You stay a slave to the unconscious parts of the story which are secrets held within the emotions.

The experience of being abused as a child is a psychic shock which causes us to become dissociative. We are not associating with our physical reality because we disconnect from it.  We are aware that the sexual part of us is a life-giving force. It's a sacred part of us and when that gets violated in a violent manner by a person in authority or who is supposed to be caring for us it creates a deep trauma.  

Moving Towards Healthy, Intimate Relationships [11:14]

Female Sexual abuse victims tend to push a man away in an instinctual way. We are afraid to go deep into love so we go for emotionally unavailable men. We create a keep love out, keep love away system. It creates a very confusing reality.

A female adult sexual abuse survivor often tries to please a man and often they put his desires first.

Dr. Meg says to start by defining what you need for yourself. It is ultimately your relationship with yourself that helps you get the relationship you want with someone else.

Tell men not to treat you with kid gloves. It only reinforces the belief that you are damaged goods.

Dating with Dignity [16:57]

Women are confused about what they want and what is acceptable. A pushy guy can trigger a sexual abuse survivor, and that’s not the kind of guy they want to be with.

To find a healthy man, a man that is truly interested in you, make sexual non-negotiables for yourself. Be thoughtful about how you show up on a date.

Healing Through Whole Person Integration  [22:04]

There is a link between chronic illness, childhood abuse, and family dysfunction. If you lived with your abuser as a child you were in a fight, flight or freeze mode all the time. Your body was constantly secreting the hormones adrenaline and cortisol. The build-up in the system becomes very toxic. The immune system becomes weak.

Emotions go through every cell of your body. Holding onto shame or secrets can lead to cancer or autoimmune disorders.

To heal women need to adopt a new and different belief system, a complete mindset shift and an energy exchange.

Heal yourself with love.  

 

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Dr. Meg Haworth

Oct 27, 2017

Would you love to pop open your ability to earn more money? Whether you are struggling with financial security or feel like you are already on the top of your game, your money making mindset may be impacting your ability to connect with the high-quality man you want to have in your life.

My guest, the brilliant, awe-inspiring Julie Steelman earned her way out of the corporate world with a new style of feminine earning power known as Feminine Financial Intelligence (FFI). She is also the Creator of the Innovative Income Amplification System, Author of The Effortless Yes and has her Master’s in Spiritual Psychology.

Why Women Are Struggling with Having More Money [4:16]

Everything is changing. From natural disasters to the recent political challenges, we are standing toe to toe with evolution as structures and stories of the past are starting to crumble. Women are no longer willing to put up with certain things. Mother Nature is saying enough already! This is the time to develop a feminine empowered way to be with money. Chasing money doesn’t align with our feminine code.  Instead, of chasing money, we need to harvest and cherish it.

How Can Women Access Their Power and Be in Flow? [9:49]

Women often accept less and it can impact their earning power.  We may consciously believe ourselves to be the “less than” species or we need to people please to get what we know we deserve.

It’s time for women to shift their Feminine Financial Intelligence. When you know your inherent value and you are willing to express it in relation to other people, you stay in the flow of your femininity.

There are 3 areas of Feminine Financial Intelligence:

1. How we are in relationship to ourselves.
2. What is our relationship to the universe?
3. How we can express ourselves in an empowered way.

Don't compromise your value system.

Having Boundaries Without Being a Bitch [18:33]

Julie says a woman should stop treating people like they have leverage over her. Ask for something and put it in the context of what does the other person want. Helping someone else while helping yourself.

Women should see money and their career as a sacred resource to be harvested and cherished. You will hit a financial glass ceiling if you let money define your worth. To move past it, get in your flow & work with your energy, not against it.

Are Men Intimidated By You? [26:33]

Don’t chase money! It will compromise and minimize your impact. If you do, you will emasculate a man.  If you think you don't need a man because you have it all, it shows. If men are intimidated by it you may not have the right man for you.

Be willing to receive. Breathe deep into the seat of the feminine power center. You will get an intuitive energetic response.  

We may not need men for money but we can still use them for love.

 

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Change Your Financial Destiny

 

Oct 22, 2017

Life Happens! 

We can’t always plan the major changes in our lives. When something happens and we are called upon to become a caregiver for someone else, be it a child, spouse or parent it is so important we continue to take care of ourselves.  

I brought on David and Tamara Dachinger to share their experience of what Cancer and Lyme disease brought into their lives. They are the Co-Founders of Loving Meditations and they are dedicated to bringing calm to cancer. 

Their Loving Meditations App is the only app specifically designed to help cancer patients, survivors and caregivers by assisting them with their daily meditative practices. 

 

Don't Let Caregiving Take Over Your Life [2:56]

It's important to declare to yourself that you are going to take care of yourself when you are caring for someone else and continue to perform your own self-care rituals. 

Tamara's son was diagnosed with Lyme disease & her husband discovered he had Stage 4 Cancer all at the same time. Tamara had a meditative practice she could continue to help her cope with the added stressors in her life. 

David and Tamara’s book, Live Calm with Cancer and Beyond,  describes the power of a mindfulness and meditation practice and how easy it is to start one. 

 

Why a Meditation Practice Helps the Caregiver and the Patient [9:18]

David says Tamara was able to show up 1000% for him because she was taking care of herself. Plus, her normal energy levels could support David through the drama and negativity of his illness. 

It’s important to adopt a calming practice now so that when you do encounter one of life’s shitstorms you have a resource you can rely on. A practice develops a foundation of mindfulness. This practice doesn’t only apply to illnesses it can also apply to divorce, struggles, etc. 

Two Practices You Can Start Today: 

● Gratitude walks pair a somatic practice with a cognitive experience to help you make a shift. 

● Isolating an object and describing it fully is an instant calming, presence technique you can do anywhere. 

 

How to Measure the Effectiveness of Your Meditation Practice [25:41]

Meditation has an accumulative effect. If you are using calming tools the people for whom you are caring will pick up on it. If you are at ease they will be at ease.

 

David says the complete role reversal was no fun for him. The transition from giver role to receiver role was a difficult transition. Getting over feeling guilty was a lesson for him. 

Don’t worry, there is no way to meditation or mindfulness wrong. 

 

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Loving Meditation App 

 

Oct 8, 2017

Are you sick and tired of online dating? 

Does your online profile need a major overhaul?

Well, by the time this podcast is over you are going to be one badass online dating ninja. 

During the show, Nancy shares her online dating profile with me and I give her tips and some sure-fire ways to help her meet quality guys online. 

 

What Nancy Learned from Past Relationships [3:17]

Nancy’s past relationships haven't included guys who will make her a priority, fit into her non-negotiables (deal breakers) or who accept her boundaries. Nancy is a good example of a woman who learns from what doesn't work in relationships and then moves on to what she wants. 

Nancy's 5 Non-Negotiables:

● Family values

● Loyalty and honesty

● Integrity

● Fun and adventure 

● Being able to financially contribute to the relationship

 

Modifying Nancy’s Online Profile [7:04]

Changing the structure of your profile to put the attention-grabbing stuff first. You want to describe the guy who should be contacting you. “Here is what I picture our first date to be like, are you ready?” is an intriguing proposition.  Make your description like a job ad. If he meets the requirements then he gets a date. 

It’s important to be specific. Describe yourself with “I am the ....” and use “we are both …”. Fill in the blanks to attract your target market of available guys. 

Your online dating profile should paint a picture of how a guy will feel with you in his life. 

Other Tips That Pay Off [17:02]

● You should be engaging with the dating site for at least 20 minutes every day. 

● Get professional photos! Choose lifestyle photos that are hip and happening. fun, flirty and feminine.

● Consider guys that are a 70% compatibility match. 

● Go on one to two dates per week.

 

You are the common denominator. 

 

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Oct 1, 2017

Ladies this episode is filled with truth bombs! It will help you take action and become a woman who has everything she wants in a relationship. 

My guest today, Jayson Gaddis, is insightful, a genius and he is handsome. He is a teacher and a student of all things relationship. And as the host of The Smart Couple Podcast and Founder of the Relationship School, Jayson is on a mission to teach people how to ‘do’ romantic relationships. 

Jayson’s first book, For the Smart Couple, comes out this November.  You can also find his work in the Good Man Project, the Elephant Journal, YourTango and The Jungle of Life, to name a few. 

 

Mistakes in Relationships that Cause Conflicts  [03:56]

The biggest mistake people make is they think they know how to navigate upset or challenges. The truth is conflict can be a door or a doorway. If we see it as a door then it's an opportunity to get to know each other better and take the relationship deeper. 

Many people are afraid to speak their truths. Steps people can take to move past a conflict in a healthy manner is to admit you are afraid to set a boundary or that you are afraid of confrontations. It's normal and ok to be afraid but if we stay afraid we will end up with the same results. 

 

How to Manage Common Relationship Conflicts [10:17]

If you feel your needs are not being met it’s important to identify your non-negotiable needs. Think of a pyramid to understand the three things we fight about as couples. 

At the top of the pyramid is surface, everyday stuff.

The middle level is resentments.

The base or foundation is feeling secure. 

If one person doesn’t feel safe in the relationship look at what the real need is. If a partner feels the other is there for them then surface conflicts can be easily resolved. If a partner feels insecure about a relationship it may incite additional conflicts.  

 

Dealing with Security Conflicts in a Relationship [27:10]

There is no such thing as a couple that doesn’t experience some type of conflict. Plus, it’s OK and perfectly healthy to have a conflict in a relationship. The important piece to overcoming conflicts is to be proactive and address the issue early. Opening up, being vulnerable and being direct about what the issue is will help you both solve it together. 

Ladies, your words, and actions must match. You have to set boundaries if you are having a security conflict. If your actions don’t match it will send a message to your guy that you are not serious and he will think it's ok to be half in and half out of the relationship. 

Get clear about what you want and look at a conflict as a door way to a deeper relationship. 

 

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Jayson Gaddis 

The Relationship School

 

Sep 24, 2017

Tired of getting nowhere by beating yourself up for every little imperfection?

Do you wish you had someone who knew exactly what you needed and when you needed it?

Well, you do. It’s you. You CAN comfort yourself and be stronger because of it.

Marni welcomes Dr. Kristin Neff  to the Den to discuss the beauty of self compassion, what it is and what it isn’t, and how your self esteem can be boosted by it so that you can get off the emotional roller coaster of dating. Dr. Neff is an Associate Professor of Human Development and Culture at the University of Texas at Austin.

 Her findings can help you to be a resilient dater, to achieve all the things you want in life, and to be an awesome partner for your high quality man.

 What is Self Compassion?  [2:08]

Normally, we give compassion to others but not inward towards ourselves.  If someone is suffering we feel the urge to help in some way. You are aware they are suffering, you respond with kindness and you offer support. In the case of self compassion you follow the same strategy but apply it to yourself.

 Self compassion, is not self-pity.

If you have a tendency to be harsh or to unjustly judge yourself you can cause unnecessary anxiety and a fear of failure. When you practice self compassion you are not afraid of failure and when you do fail you are more likely to pick yourself up and try again.

 Self-compassion is not self-care.

 You Have a Built-In Caregiving System [8:07]

Supportive Touch can be putting your hands on your heart, holding your own hand or giving yourself a hug. A gentle touch can make us feel safe and we can do it for ourselves. You can release oxytocin and opiates to help yourself relax.

 When something hurtful happens we can get lost in the story of what's happening. When we practice self compassion techniques we can step outside of ourselves and recognize that we need kindness and support.

 Be a good friend to yourself.

 Accepting Ourselves for Who We Are [17:25]

For most people, their sense of self-worth is based on achieving success. As a result, our sense of self-worth goes up and down because we have “good” and “bad” days. Practicing self compassion can keep us more stable and it steps in when self-esteem  deserts us.

It's not about being good, it's just about being a human being worthy of love and respect. When we realize that everyone struggles we can be a loving, connected presence.

Approach things from a place of fullness instead of a place of lacking.

Resilience [27:20]

Self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of strength and resilience we have. Rigid things can break, if you are flexible you can bounce back. If you support yourself in difficult times it will be easier for you to get through things.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

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Center For Mindful Compassion

 

Sep 24, 2017

Ladies you are going to get so much out of today’s coaching session because Jane experiences a deep shift during our conversation.

Jane is a smart, successful woman with a big heart who hasn't been able to bust out of her unhealthy relationship patterns. We are going to help her figure out what is keeping her stuck.

Jane has had a lifetime of unhealthy, even toxic relationships. She is trying to find a space within herself where she can change her energy to attract a healthy relationship.

 You Have Self-Esteem, But is it Conditional?  [03:01]

Jane has been working on building her self-esteem. She knows she is deserving of love but she still hasn't shifted because she doesn’t feel worthy.

 Jane fears that her long-term patterns will keep attracting the same man. Her father was emotionally unavailable and abusive. Her mom wasn't available to her because she was always focused on her father. Jane took on the role of the good girl in the family. She felt like a ghost. She couldn't say no. She still creates this in her adult relationships.

 

Redefining Love [11:31]

Jane wants to be authentically herself in a relationship. But, she's attracting guys she thinks will leave her or be emotionally unavailable like her father. Jane realizes she has trouble letting her guard down.

If she Jane trusted herself:

● she would be discerning.

● she would recognize the red flags. 

● she would have boundaries.

The missing piece is Jane needs to let go of the fear and redefine how she would feel in a loving relationship. To move past her sad story, she needs to act like she has nothing to lose and that she is the victor.

 The only way to release the victim energy is to start doing something different, to start showing up as a woman who is open and who trusts herself.

 

Jane’s Homework [24:45]

I ask Jane to create a Superhero Alter-Ego that aligns with who Jane wants to be in a relationship. For two to three minutes a day, Jane needs to install this new identity and while squeezing her fists repeat a mantra based on what she wants to manifest in her life.

A solid mantra is:

I am loveable.

I am enough.

I am smart.

I am sexy.

I have boundaries.

Great men want to date me. 

 

It is ok to feel safe because you are safe. 

 

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Sep 17, 2017

So many ladies ask me about flirting!  Does flirting have to be sexual? How do I flirt if I am an introvert? And the popular, how exactly does one flirt? 

I decided to bring in an expert to answer all of your questions.  

Patti Contenta is a professional dancer, choreographer and the Founder of Sensuality Secrets. Her e-book, Desirable and Deserving and her video series Sexy in Seconds help women to find more playful techniques to flirting, build self-esteem and to exude a self-confidence quality men are magnetized to. 

 

How to Flirt Without Putting Out a Sexual Vibe  [3:18]

So many women shut down because they don't want to send a sexual vibe when flirting. Internal self-confidence struggles can make a woman rigid and fearful.  Patty has developed a flirting formula which starts with being a charismatic person first. Her ‘How to Create Rapport Through Charisma & How to Use Body Language to Enhance the Experience and Make it More Romantic can transform the way you flirt.  

 

 4 Virtues to Becoming Charismatic [7:20]

Working with a woman’s natural style is important. Charisma is leaving someone with a positive impression of you and leaving the other person with a positive impression about themselves. 

The four virtues that someone else should feel in your presence are: 

A - Appreciation

C - Connection

E - Elevation 

S - Self-Expression 

Focus on the human connection, display your individuality, and be a good story teller. 

 

Transition Tools for Women [32:08]

Patty says the key to connecting with another human being is to become the kind of person who owns their experiences in life. And, when you want to take it to the next level. Start with charisma and turn up the dial with non-verbal cues to make you feel more sensual. It will flow naturally. 

To get to Wa-Wa-Woo try self-touch. A man will notice you are more in your body as your feminine sensual nature slowly shows through. 

Be comfortable with who you are and the body you have.

 

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Fearless Flirting with Patty Contenta

Sensuality Secrets

 

Aug 13, 2017

This call is a great example of when you are coming at dating from a place of self-worth and self-love it puts you in the power position.

And, it’s proof that Bumble and Tinder really work!

My client, Julie, met a great guy on Bumble. After a few weeks of dating, he asked her if she wanted to be exclusive. She has been putting her coaching into practice and has discovered that she communicates well with this new guy and he meets her boundaries. Sounds perfect right? But, Julie has some questions about meeting his children and challenges with dealing with her unresolved issues.

 

Julie Needs Support Now That Her New Relationship is Exclusive  [3:01]

Julie’s new guy is a single dad. During the first weeks of their relationship, his kids were at camp. Now that things are settling down and back to a normal schedule, plus they have decided to become exclusive, Julie wants to know how she can show up in a healthy way in this new relationship. 

Julie says she needs an emotional and physical connection from her new relationship.

 

Navigating the Family Aspect [8:57]

Julie’s new beau has been divorced for 9-months. He has made it clear he wants to be in a long-term relationship and possibly marry again.  He has also made it clear he doesn't want to introduce Julie to his 14-year-old daughter for 6-months. 

Dating in your 40’s means new relationships may come with kids. 

 

Unresolved Issues Come Through as Fear [15:06]

Julie is creating a challenge for herself. She believes she is always the last person men date before they meet “the one”. She may be injecting this limited belief into this relationship by collecting evidence that her limiting belief is right. 

By making these assumptions, Julie is putting herself into victim and is creating a barrier to fully-expressing herself. 

 

Trusting the Process [25:28]

By giving meaning to things based on her past she is staying in this story she has created. She will put this guy in the same place as the other guys which isn't fair to him. She isn’t enjoying the current moments. 

 

Julie needs to trust the process by: 

1. Accepting the facts, not the stories. 

2. Being aware of herself.

3. Making conscious choices.

4.Living in the moment, not in the past. 

 

The foundational process is to love yourself, love your life and find a guy to love.

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Dating Den Episode #35 with Laura Doyle

The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle

 

Aug 6, 2017

On today’s podcast, we find out how to be free from your doubts and emotions by stripping away the story and accepting what is truly under your control. 

Luke Iorio is a Conscious Growth Strategist, a Blogger, A Podcaster and President of The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC). I love him not only because he has been my coach for 9-years but because he is a wide-angled observer and an enthusiastic participant in the game of life who seeks to ask and answer "What's truly possible?" 

 

Why Are We Fixated on Fixing Ourselves?  [3:59]

Many women have convinced themselves that they are not whole, that they are somehow less than who they truly are. Plus, our psychology leads us towards the idea that we are not enough. It makes it hard to get through the daily stressors of life and then add dating on top of that and it can seem overwhelming. 

Fear naturally occurs in the dating and relationship process. The very beginning is riddled with judgment. We are worried if we will be rejected or if we are enough. It creates stress.  

Luke Iorio says when we interpret messages we receive from other people or from feedback from dating sites we get caught up in the stories we make up in our own heads. 

But, it’s your perception of what happened that is worrisome, what meaning you have associated with the message that is causing the stress and fear. 

We need to get out of our heads a bit and get more present to who we are with and what is going on in the moment. 

 

The Stripping the Story Tool [13:20]

Understanding and accepting that you have made up a story can help you deal with what is real, instead of what is made up about a situation. Look at the truth of the message without your added story. 

When you stay in your own story you risk closing off other possibilities of what the message could mean.  

 

A Formula to Trigger Joy [19:02]

Consider the quality of the experience and the emotions you want to feel when dating. When you get clear about what you would love your experience to include you can figure out how to incorporate this into the present moment. 

When have you felt joy or love? How did it feel? 

When you bring it up you can feel the connection again. It will surface more and more and you can decide how to bring it into the present moment. Ask yourself what questions you could ask you normally wouldn't or what stories you could share?

 

Creating a Shift in Your Conscious Choice [26:44]

All of our experiences shape the way we see the world. To be able to truly make a conscious choice is really difficult. We need to become aware how we see the world. assessment tools, mindfulness, and meditation can help us unwind the biases that affect us from seeing what is going on and affect our decision-making process. 

 

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The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching 

Live Lead Play Podcasts

Jul 30, 2017

Do you feel uncomfortable dating more than one guy at a time? Well, my guest today thinks you should be dating 3 guys at once and she tells you why! 

My guest on today’s podcast is Psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner. Dr. Diana has been featured on Oprah, she is a reoccurring guest on the Today show and she starred in a PBS special on LOVE which was based on her best-selling book Love in 90 Days. Dr. Diana has just released a new book called Find Your Soulmate Online in 6 Simple Steps

She has helped thousands of successful women date and meet terrific partners, to deepen their existing relationships and to create a lasting love.

 

The Most Important Thing a Successful Woman Can Do to Find a Lasting Relationship  [3:01]

Women are often blinded by the myth that true love is just supposed to happen to us. Dr. Diana says it's a bunch of BS. The best thing successful women can do to find a lasting relationship is to get a mentor. Women get mentoring for work but not for love and love is more difficult than work. 

Our wounded inner child is so hungry that we ignore the things that don’t connect with the guys we date. If we focus on creating our Diamond Self-Identity we create our own possibilities for who we are in the world. 

 

Why Does Brain Chemistry Make Women Make Bad Choices? [9:30]

Oxytocin is a bonding chemical which is released in the body during sex, when touching another person and when you have a child. It is a chemical designed to physically tie you to another person. To avoid this “drug” being released when you are with the wrong guy, Dr. Diana recommends dating three guys at the same time but not having sex with any of them. 

 

The Discovery & Learning Process of Dating [17:58]

Dating three guys at the same time is fun and full of discovery. Successful women will learn about their own wants and needs as well as about which guys rise to the top. Dr. Diana says your dance card doesn’t always have to have the same three guys on it. If one guy drops off you can always start dating someone new. Plus, there is nothing better for your self-esteem! 

 

4 Ways to Heal Heartbreak [22:55]

1. Tell your story to a loving friend and avoid isolation. 

2. Meditation or another spiritual practice can be soothing. 

3. Get active to stimulate your endorphins.

4. Keep your calendar full. 

 

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Love in 90 Days

Books by Dr. Diana Kirschner 

Jul 23, 2017

You know you want to redo your bedroom. Why not make it into a sensual love space?

My guest on today’s podcast is Interior Decorator and a Love Coach, Katie Tiki. Katie is the author of Love By Design: 10 Things You Can Do in Your Home Now to Manifest Your Man and host of the Great Men Do Exist: Create a Space for Love show. 

Katie is a fierce believer in love attraction And can explain how you can manifest love through interior design? 

 

What You Can Do to Make A Space to Attract Love [4:25]

Katie says, “everything thing around you is a mirror for what is inside.” If you know what type of man you are trying to bring into your life put imagery of the experiences you would like to have around your house.

Energetically make space for the man you want. Women should keep their instrument of sensual pleasure close at hand. Candles, honey dust, whatever makes you feel sexy make sure it is in your immediate environment.  

The way we treat ourselves is how we attract people that treat us the way. If wearing silk and lace makes you feel sexy then go for it. And, get rid of your clutter! Clutter in your space is not good and will stress you out. It's taking up space in your mind. The more space you have in your environment the more space you have to attract what you want. 

Make an amazing bachelorette pad.   

 

The Ex-Husband is Gone So Be Done With Him [11:24]

Just go ahead and remove anything that reminds you of a love gone awry. Freshen up your space, change your environment and set yourself up to win. 

You can manifest the most amazing man ever. Your perspective makes all the difference. Ladies, reclaim your do-over. 

 

Do Not Be Afraid to Be Vulnerable [16:56]

Consider how vulnerability can show up in your environment.   It's a great way to make a real, deep connection. It is a myth that it takes a long time to find love. It doesn’t have to. 

You notice your environment subconsciously all the time because you live in it. Make it conducive to attracting the love of your life! 

Release anything that no longer serves you. 

 

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Love By Design: 10 Things You Can Do in Your Home Now to Manifest Your Man by Katie Titi 

#decorativedildos

Jul 16, 2017

Has time, or the lack of it, become your enemy? 

Do you have trouble making your love life a priority because of your work, your kids, and other responsibilities?

Do you feel overwhelmed all the time? 

My guest on today’s podcast is Time Management Coach, Dr. Sarah Reiff-Hekking. Sarah is the Founder of True Focus Coaching, a Speaker, Coach and a Clinical Psychologist. She has 20 years of experience in helping people figure out strategies to help them stop hiding in overwhelm.

Sarah believes smart women need to find a time management system that works specifically for them.  Solutions are found by paying attention to the present moment and getting rid of all the extra shit that isn't at the core of your life. 

  

Which Type Are You? [6:49]

Procrastination and overwhelm become big issue's because they make you cloudy and keep you from taking the next step in your life. A lack of self-trust is often at the core of these issues. 

Many of us are so crazy busy we don't leave enough space in our day to do the most important things. (Like find a life partner!)  Some of us don't know we are avoiding taking action towards what we want because we are too frozen. Some of us show up and do whatever happens to come our way or some of us do anything but what we had planned.  These are emotional pieces of time management. 

Which one resonates with you? What triggers you to procrastinate? 

Chronically single women often don't trust themselves when it comes to dating.  

 

We Are All Wired Differently [17:56]

Have you been telling the same story about your differences and limitations around being late, pulling all-nighters or always being on time? Well, it’s time to change your story. Everyone is different and should focus on time management skills that work specifically for them.  

5 Steps to Bust Through Procrastination [23:00]

Sarah says it is possible for us to get better at getting what we want. We just need to set up support and accountability in your environment. 

 

1. Find the beast. 

2. Calm your inner fear discussion. 

3. Engineer your containment system to be positively focused. 

4. Get support.

5. Keep restarting until you are where you need to be. 

Set up your environment to support a positive mood. 

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True Focus Quiz

True Focus Coaching 

Jul 2, 2017

There are many ladies who can identify with Kat’s problem in her on again, off again relationship.  

If you have ever been strung along by a guy you love it is really important you listen to this episode. 

 

Kat’s On Again Off Again Guy [1:36]

Kat is in an on/off relationship. She doesn't know who he sees when they are "off". She says she wants to move on but she is in love with the guy. She just wants to be in a fun relationship with someone who cares about her. 

Her guy picks a fight when he wants to go away and then sends a text a few days later. He says he’s done but never allows Kat to move on.  

He knows she’ll keep coming back no matter what crap he pulls.  

 

Why Kat Gives Up Her Power and Dignity [7:17]

Kat is in a romantic rut. She is giving up all her power and dignity and allowing the guy to push her in one direction and then pull her into another. But, why is she allowing herself to be treated this way? 

She feels sad, broken and that she has wasted years on him. 

Getting Over A Romantic Rut

1. Write it out. 

a. What do you think?

b. What do you feel?

c. What do you do?

2. Use your Choice Points to get what you want.

a. Don’t react, respond.

Kat doesn’t realize how much power she has! 

 

Kat’s Vision for a Romantic Future [22:23]

It’s extremely important for Kat to get out of this romantic rut and find a partner who wants to be in a loving and committed relationship. She wants someone she can count on to have her back. 

Everytime Kat does something not in alignment with this vision she is actively moving away from what she wants. 

 

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Jun 25, 2017

Ladies, would you talk to men when their face is in their phone or their headphones are in their ears? No? So why would your perfect man approach you when your phone is out? Put it away and put on a smile!

Camille Virginia is here today to show us how to date offline! Camille is the expert behind Master Offline Dating. She specializes in working with singles who are burned out with online dating. Camille giving ladies the skills and competence to find their match in the real world.

Taking the Natural Approach [2:55]

If you see a cute guy but don't feel comfortable making the first move, Camille recommends closing the physical gap and getting closer to him to see if he says something to you. If that doesn't work use the Friendly or Flirting technique. Say something casual about something in your proximity. He won't know if you are being friendly or flirting.

5 Key Ways to Be Approachable [6:21]

  1. Take your headphones out and put your screen away - You are not looking for a robot!
  2. Set an intention to meet the guy you want to meet and why you want to meet him.
  3. Smiling - It's better than resting bitch face.
  4. Make eye contact - Pretend you're looking for someone.
  5. Dress for confidence and a conversation - It only takes one unique accent piece.

But I’m an Introvert [18:49]

You just have to move out of your comfort zone. You have to wean yourself off staying home and not talking to anybody. Get out and go to a party by yourself. It’s not going to be easy but you have to get out there if you are going to meet someone.

What If He Ends Up Being a Toad [20:31]

If you catch a guy's attention and he makes an approach but then you are totally not into him make something up. Honesty is not the best policy in this case.

Do not hurt his feelings just because he had the confidence to come up and talk to you.

Where Are the Quality Guys [28:52]

You can pass 100’s of single men but be too busy to notice. Pay attention to who is behind you in line.

 

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Master Offline Dating

How to Attract the Right Guy in Under 30 Seconds Without Saying a Word

Jun 18, 2017

Do you hang on to the jerks because you’re not sure if you are really lovable?

If Mr. Nice Guy comes along are you afraid you will screw it up like all the other relationships you’ve had?

In this episode, Marni coaches Sarah from Texas. Sarah has been a serial monogamist for a while, but learns how she can become a long-term girlfriend with a new guy she just met.

Sorting Through the Past [3:04]

Sarah admits to having a knack for finding assholes but recently she has come upon Mr. Nice Guy. Marni shows her how to to move forward by unpacking the past. Sarah felt a connection with the last jerk she met, but it was a connection through humor, which reminded her of her dad. When she ‘confronted’ him about her wants and needs he made it clear he didn’t share her values.

Words have energy and we choose the words we say unconsciously.

The Future [21:22]

Sarah needs to forget about her history and her previous stories about herself. She has been reacting rather than responding. She should determine what she needs and what she wants, then ask her date higher quality questions which will reveal to her the answers that really matter.

The New Guy [24:42]

Sarah is afraid she is going to screw things up with the new guy because she has grown so accustomed to failed relationships. She also feels unlovable which may be bleeding through into her actions. Once she realizes there is nothing to fuck up, she should practice receiving his attention, his time and his kindness.

Sarah’s homework is to practice receiving love and to turn up her love limit. Every day she needs to spend two minutes imagining herself receiving love as a Gold Child - her ideal, authentic love-able self.

You can have chemistry with people who are bad for you.

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Match.com

Jun 11, 2017

Are you a high-achieving woman who is hard on yourself and believes that beating yourself up motivates you somehow to make a change?  Or, do you organize your own ‘pity party’ when things go wrong, feeling sorry for yourself? Like you are the only one? Do you believe kicking your own ass is an effective way to make change?

Did you know that, actually,  every self-help article, book, practice and thought you have may be taking you further away from happiness, joy and love. There is no quick fix!

Ladies, there is so much more to you than what goes on in your head.

My guest, Raz Ingrasci has been an executive, a consultant, and a facilitator within the human potential movement since 1972. Along with being a teacher for the Hoffman Institute, he founded the Hoffman Institutes Foundation in 1998. The Hoffman Process is one of the most highly effective methods for healing, personal transformation and discovering your true nature.

Negative Love Syndrome  [3:25]

When we want to feel love and connection and then get rejected we fall into what Raz calls ‘negative love syndrome.’ Negative love syndrome is a recognition that we learned our fundamental lessons about what love is, what it means and how to be loved, from our parents in our early childhood.

Whatever emotions were present in our family of origin up into our 10th or 12th year, we absorb and that is what we call love. We shape our entire emotional selves around it.

You are not destined to fail in love.

Why Don’t Self-Help Models Work? [15:18]

Self-help models are generally based on the assumption that you are aware of the ways you have been automatic and that if you know what a better way of being is and put your will into it,  everything will be better. They are based on our willpower and willpower is overrated. It just doesn't work.

In order to change, we need to go to the depths of compassion where the pain is and re-experience the pain.

The Source of Happiness [23:02]

The source of happiness dwells within each human being as a spiritual dimension of self which is resonating in harmony with life as it truly is. The cultivation of compassion is fundamental and mindfulness is a way for us to notice what we grab on to. It assists us in loosening our grip on negative love syndrome.

The Quadrinity Model [25:29]

The work of the Hoffman Process points out we have four dimensions of self that are occurring simultaneously:

  1. The physical body
  2. The intellect.
  3. The emotions
  4. The spiritual self.

Pain and suffering reside in our emotional self. We experienced pain and suffering in our childhood, we buried the negative, painful emotions and then called them love. So, it continues to swirl endlessly in a vicious cycle. Our spiritual selves are our authentic selves, open, free, loving and spontaneous.

 

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The Hoffman Institute

Jun 4, 2017

Love and relationship expert, Arielle Ford just returned from Italy.  She says just being there enlivens all of the senses. There is a vibration of love there.

People are moving at a different pace than in America. They are strolling and holding hands. There is a massive feeling of satisfaction and bliss,  and in this episode she is going to tell you how you can bring that into your own love life.

 Arielle is in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. She has spent 30 years living, teaching and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a brilliant speaker and co-creator and co-host of Evolving Wisdoms: Art of Love series. She is also the author of 11 books. Including the extremely influential, The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with The Law of Attraction.  

 The Dazzling Distraction  [6:18]

 Many successful women use their work as a distraction to get a hit of dopamine (dopamine is the feel good chemical that your brain emits when you feel good).  That they would really rather be getting from being in love. The dopamine gives us instant feedback - a quick hit - so rather than noticing who is noticing you, you run around keeping yourself busy when you should be living in the moment, savoring life.

 Arielle says in order to manifest great love you have to be in a loving space. If you are in judgment mode he can feel it. Men choose women based on how they feel around you.

The big secret to manifesting love is to spend time everyday feeling the way you want to feel when you are with your beloved.

 Get Clear on Your Vision [9:35]

Arielle had a wish list of what she wanted in a guy. She wanted to be the center of his universe and she wanted him to enjoy adventure travel. Ladies, remember no physical attribute contributes to your long-term happiness. When you seek a soulmate/life partner, important attributes are chemistry, communication, compatibility, connection and a shared vision for the future.

How to Get Clear

Know your must haves and deal breakers.  

Put everything you want into positive statements.

Look to your old relationships to see what you want and don't want.

Femininity and Feminine Power [18:42]

When we are working we are in our masculine energy.  But, if you want to be with a masculine male you need to learn to be receptive. You are not using the same type of energy when you are in a relationship as you are when you are working. Learn to shift into your feminine energy.

It's easy to get what you want from a guy. "It would make me happy" they exist to make us happy and they can't make us happy when you are being a demanding bitch.

5 Limiting Beliefs You Need to Let Go Of

  1. You are too old.
  2. You are too fat.
  3. You are damaged.
  4. All the good ones are taken.
  5. You are too busy.

Become an emotionally mature adult. Start to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings.

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