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Jan 29, 2017

If you have ever said to yourself:

 

“Why is there no one good enough for me out there?”

 

“I can’t find anyone interesting that I like.”

 

“I want a spiritual guy.”

 

If you have said these things to yourself well ladies, you are in for a wake-up call. On today’s episode, Marne welcomes the Cupid of Consciousness, the Fairy God Mother of Love, Arielle Ford. For the last 25 years, Arielle Ford has lived and promoted consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life Through the Law of Attraction and she has a new book Turn Your Mate Into Your Soul Mate.

There are smart and successful women who feel they have everything but love. Arielle says it’s an egotistical place for them to come from because there are a billion men to choose from out there.

If a woman is successful at work she is getting dopamine hits for doing what she is good at. What she wasn’t good at was dating so she made up excuses. But when you hit your 40’s and you wake up alone you start to wonder why you can’t manifest a soul mate? Women need to understand their dating patterns by putting their past relationships through a rigorous inspection.

Are you able to move in between your masculine and feminine when needed?

 

Are All the Good Ones Taken and Is It Too Late?  [7:44]

 

Successful women can become locked in their masculine energy. If you desire an alpha man you need to downshift into your feminine energy.

Women don’t always know how to be warm, loving, and friendly on a date. Arielle advises if you go out on a date make it a treasure hunt about the other person. Be truly curious about your date.

 

Rose Colored Glasses [12:22]

 

Dating and finding a soulmate should be fun, not a chore. Manifesting who you will spend the rest of your life with is life’s grandest adventure. It shouldn’t be work to find your best friend and your lover. But on dates, women can be heat seeking missiles for what is wrong. Virtually wearing rose colored glasses can help them to see what is right. Women fall in love between their ears. If there is an instant chemistry, it's lust, not long term love. Lust is ok, but it's not about finding a soulmate.

 

How to Reset  [15:54]

 

For a strong woman to reset Arielle says to make dating a sacred ritual. Light a candle, say a prayer and think of love as a spiritual adventure. Remember, men do spirituality differently. Conscious men are living their life on purpose. New age nice guys may be suppressing their anger.

 

But it’s Too Late For Me[19:51]

 

It’s never too late to find a soul mate no matter your age. If you keep saying it’s too late, you will make yourself right. Women need to be optimistic.

A soulmate is someone you can completely be yourself with. It is possible to have more than one soulmate in your life. If you want to draw your soulmate near you simply need to have gratitude for what you already have. The law attraction says we draw people, places and experiences to us that mirror our state of being.

Get into a higher vibrational frequency.

 

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Inkspirations Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulmate

Soulmate Secrets by Arielle Ford

Soulmate Passion by Arielle Ford

Jan 22, 2017

Do you sometimes think, Maybe I’m too picky...

 

Do your friends say, “I just don’t get it...”

 

“You’re amazing...

 

“You’re beautiful, you’re smart, you’ve got it all together and you have a great life...

 

“WTF?!”

 

If this is you, don’t sweat it. It’s truly the most common theme among smart, successful, single women.

 

That’s because most women think... if everyone keeps telling me how awesome I am, then it has to be the guy’s fault!

 

First of all... seriously?!

 

The truth is, you wouldn’t be here, if there wasn’t something wrong.

 

Are you one of those women who just want to get down to business on a date?

 

To figure out if the guy is worthy of you so you can start falling in love?

 

Are you looking for a strong man who wants a strong woman but can’t understand why you scare so many guys off?

 

If so, you will identify with today’s caller, Irene. Irene is a super smart, super successful woman from a tough Italian family. Irene is looking for a relationship with her equal, she wants her soul mate and a best friend. But as you’ll hear in the call, Irene is afraid she’ll be chronically single because she’s not feminine enough.

 

Irene wants a relationship with a foundation of facts and truth. She doesn’t want someone who will just disappear like her father, her brother and her grandfather.

 

Becoming Comfortable in Your Feminine [6:17]

 

Women want to be authentic but are afraid to bring out our feminine aspects in front of powerful guys. Growing up Irene was shown that to be feminine means women should speak and act properly. Women should be girly and are no more than arm candy. She has worked hard in her life to prove she is more than that.

But being feminine is not always girly, girl. Femininity is an open energy that is soft around the edges. Irene may be showing up in her masculine energy is because her high-performance operating system is results based.

 

Boxing Gloves [14:05]

 

Irene recognized her father wasn’t there for her when she needed comfort as a little girl. She was hurt emotionally and she feels a need to protect herself. Irene is emotionally wearing boxing gloves in preparation of needed to protect herself. They may not be raised in a defensive stance but they are there if she needs them.

 

A quality guy wants someone who can lean into her feminine and sometimes be his opposite.

 

Creating Emotional Safety  [17:20]

 

Irene feels if she puts her boxing gloves down it will leave her unprotected, open to risk and emotions. Irene has had her story for so long it’s hard for her to get past. She understands she needs to build up her emotional resiliency but she fears the pain of being left alone.

 

It is Irene’s emotional child who shows up on dates. She needs to accept whatever happens as ok and practice showing up on dates as an emotional adult.  When she is in a non-triggering environment she needs to practice feeling pain instead of being defensive about it.

 

Irene’s Key Lessons [30:47]

 

  • Caring for and healing the emotional child inside of her.
  • Practice being more vulnerable with men.
  • She doesn’t need to have her protective side up all the time.

 

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Jan 15, 2017

 

That which doesn’t kill us, only makes us stronger…

Take a negative experience and turn it into a positive…

Take your lemons and make lemonade…

Learning from your mistakes is how you will succeed...

We’ve all heard these cliches before…

 

And like all cliches, there is some wisdom there.

But what about breakups… are they failures we can learn from?

I mean, they kinda suck, right?

 

But what if you could emerge from a breakup better, happier and stronger than you were before?

Interesting thought...

Breakups are hard on your heart.

 

They can be a crushing experience. There can be arguing, name calling and worse. And if kids are involved, it can be really difficult to make sure they aren’t adversely affected.

 

My guest, Katherine Woodward Thomas was going through her own divorce when she came up with a very modern way to break up. Her book, Conscious Uncoupling, has been nominated for a Books for a Better Life award and the process was made famous when Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin adopted it. She describes the process as a paradigm shift from what is often thought of as an antagonist experience to an experience with generosity or good will.

 

It’s great to believe in a lifetime of happiness but reality shows that most of us will probably have more than one significant relationship in our lives. Meeting that one special person is an outdated concept.  

 

Breakups Are Crossroads  [8:57]

 

During a breakup, we get rejection sensitive, our hearts get defensive and we can even bring hostility into our next relationship. We may punish ourselves by self-loathing or lingering in anger for a long period of time. There is a lot of bad stuff that can happen if we don’t navigate a breakup properly. What is the difference between a broken heart and a broken leg? We would never think that time would heal a broken leg so we do we think it will heal a broken heart? Our goal should be to make our hearts stronger after a breakup!

 

Why We Go from Soul Mate to Soul Hate [11:39]

 

Humans are born to bond and form communities, so breakups are against nature. Nature will do anything to keep us together including releasing a chemical in the brain that creates a deep longing for the person who rejected us. It’s designed to inspire us to run after the person. The chemicals in the brain of a person going through a breakup are similar to a person who is grieving from a death. Nature would prefer a negative bond rather than no bond, it is an evolutionary leftover.

 

Why Consciously Uncouple?  [15:23]

 

The step by step process helps to keep us in charge of our emotions. The goal behind Conscious Uncoupling is the desire to cause a minimal amount of suffering for ourselves, for each other and to our children. It sets up structures where people can win moving forward.

 

If there are children involved our exes can be in our lives for the long haul. It makes this process a necessity not a luxury way to break up.

 

The Steps of Conscious Uncoupling [18:51]

 

We all know that really big emotions come up after a breakup. So, what is to be done? How do we deal with all the feelings we are feeling? Katherine says, before taking action, rational or irrational, follow these steps:

 

  1. Find Emotional Freedom
  2. Reclaim Your Power and Your Life
  3. Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart.
  4. Become a Love Alchemist.
  5. Create Your Happy Even After Life.

 

Katherine’s program includes an exercise to clear the air and remove the toxic emotional residue. She has trained coaches who can assist you and your partner during this difficult time.

 

The Conscious Uncoupling Summit [42:38]

 

This first time ever LIVE event includes speakers and sessions on how to move through grief in a powerful way, how to consciously uncouple, how to midwife your best life and more on January 27 & January 28, 2017. You can experience the entire virtual summit from the comfort of home.

 

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Conscious Uncoupling

Happily Even After

Jan 8, 2017

In today’s coaching session with Dorothy she shares a problem, many of you have been dealing with. She doesn’t want to repeat the same shit from her last relationship.

She really wants to have children. Her Ex made her think she was crazy for wanting kids, which is totally uncalled for. So now, she’s dating some great guys and wants to move forward with the kid talk but she’s afraid that if she does the guys are going to bolt.

Dorothy is smart and successful. She loves her career and she really wants to get married and have kids. Wanting kids is a big part of who she is.

 

Dorothy’s Picker Was Broken [3:21]

 

Dorothy’s Ex didn’t like it when she talked about children but it felt natural for her. When she read my MANimal types she realized she had been picking the wrong guys.

Having kids is a deal breaker for Dorothy and yet she has been on 10 dates with a guy she likes and hasn’t even brought up the subject of marriage or children. She should have told him her deal breakers by date #3.

How to determine your non-negotiables:

● Think of qualities in relationships you admire.

● Consider your core values.

● Think of the values you want in a partner.

Dorothy has about 16 wishes for a potential mate but her top 5 deal breakers are the right guy wants a family, is supportive, is active, is a saver and is flexible.

Your deal breakers are 5 fights you are never going to have in your relationship!

 

Collecting Information About Who You Are Dating [23:55]

 

Women should know the person they are dating by date #3. If Dorothy collects the data out of curiosity it will remove the fear she has placed around it. She believes if she shares what she truly wants she will be shut down.

After some coaching, Dorothy understands future dates don’t deserve to have the weight of her previous relationships around their necks. And, she knows she should have brought the subject of children up sooner.

Being vulnerable can be scary but it creates an opportunity for emotional intimacy.

 

The Quality Boyfriend Litmus Test  [30:28]

 

It’s important to get clear on your needs up front because Mr. Quality Casual will string you along forever! Don’t wait to ask the serious questions. One guy does not represent all guys. They don’t all respond in the same way.

Money is a hard topic to discuss but it is really, really important!

 

Homework and Takeaways from this Coaching Session

1. Make a list of how someone could demonstrate they have qualities that match your non-negotiables.

2. By date #3 you should know if a guy shares your top 5 values.

3. Be the person you want to attract.

4. Don’t let past relationships cloud future relationships.

 

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Jan 1, 2017

Today’s conversation with Susan Bratton is about reaching true intimacy and epic love by creating your sexual soulmate. Susan is a TV personality, an award-winning speaker, and a serial entrepreneur. She is compassionate and fearless when teaching fundamental communication skills that make for crazy, good sex.

 

How Susan Became a Trusted, Hot Sex Advisor [4:03]

 

Susan has always been a horny girl who wanted to find really good sex. When she met her husband at age 30, she finally found what she was looking for. Then after 10 years of marriage, the sex started to dwindle, he had an affair, and they were on their way to a divorce. For the sake of their family, they decided to go and seek out sexual help. After sexually educating themselves, the couple became closer than they had ever been.

 

Close the orgasm gap!

 

Masculine and Feminine Roles are Changing [11:41]

 

Women need to recognize the biological impacts and behaviors deeply embedded in the masculine. Men physically need to be ready when it is time to impregnate a female. That is why hot guys get all the sex. Whereas, women are driven by two competing desires. We want to be impregnated by a healthy, good looking stud but also find someone to help us care for the children.

 

Create your sexual soulmate by:

● Giving your man little wins during sex.

● Consistently tell him he’s doing a good job in and out of the bedroom.

Women get bored to death if the sex is always the same. We need variety.

 

How to Create a Safe Place to Communicate Your Desires  [20:10]

When you trust yourself you allow trust into the bedroom. Women, you must love your body as much as he loves your body. Your man picked you because he thinks you are sexy.

If something is causing you pain or frustration, and it keeps you in your mind, and not in your body, you need to work that out before sex. If you feel tension, allow his hands to awaken your sexual grid so you can be in your body.

First date sex isn’t recommended because you haven’t fully connected yet.

The Best Hug in the World [26:33]

This hug activates the masculine/feminine dynamic and helps you to connect at a sexual soulmate level. You can do this with a first date, without this leading to sex. This is the time you can find a connection to yourself, your partner and the universe.

Setting Boundaries When You Are Dating  [32:06]

Every time you make love, you should tell your lover what is going on with you. Tell him exactly what you want, what you are willing to do in the time you have, and have the safe sex discussion. The guy will be happy that you gave him the manual.

It might sound tedious but it’s important to have these grown up conversations.

Seduction Techniques [40:26]

When a guy gives you a menu of what he can give you, it is akin to getting a big dopamine hit for a woman. Ask him to give you small offers. It will give you time for your desire to escalate. Plus, he gets a lot of small wins when you say yes to each choice.

● The average guy loves to see women in lingerie.

● Hold your man’s you know what early and often.

● Hold your boundaries.

Reignite Your Sexuality [47:01]

Women, you can become more sexual without compromising yourself. Dress in ways that make you feel sexy, masturbate frequently, and give yourself massages. Be sure to use natural organic oils, not chemical laden lubes. Turn on your own system.

If you want to be a sexual soulmate keep yourself in good shape by being your own lover.

 

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