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The Dating Den

Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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May 28, 2017

You have a great online dating profile right? Or do you?  Just one fatal mistake can result in receiving emails from men who are absolutely not in your “league,” looking for a hookup, and totally frustrated with online dating.

That’s why the queen of profiles at eHarmony is here to tell us what makes our online dating profiles so ineffective.

Since 2008, Jeannie Assimos has been managing eHarmony’s PR and social media as well as overseeing their advice site which receives over 2 million unique visitors a month. She previously worked as the Managing Director for Entertainment Tonight and The Insider.  

 Missteps in Your Profile  [03:59]

Jeannie tells us where we are making mistakes in our dating profile.

  • Photos, Photos, and Photos.
    • Have more than one photo. No one reaches out when you only have one photo.
    • Have clear photos. If the guy doesn’t know which girl you are in the photo he may want to date your friend.
    • Add a variety of flattering photos.
  • Don’t waste precious space!
    • Generic, throwaway lines have to go. Add some detail and add what makes you unique.
    • Think about language that will make a difference and get you to stand apart from the crowd.
    • Don’t assume everyone knows what you mean. Expound.
  • Negativity does not belong in your profile.
    • Write your profile when you are in a good mood.
    • Think about what you want and not what you don’t want.
  • Be yourself and add what is important to you.

 Dating is like a business so put your best foot forward.  

 Be Honest [16:21]

Even if you are 45 but look like you are going on 32 put your real age down. Lying on your profile can never lead to something real and true. Many people get hung up on their age. It’s better to own who you are and be beautifully confident in it.

Most eHarmony couples are close to the same age.

 3 Things to Put Your Thought and Intention Into [23:05]

Put thought and intention into your profile.

Put thought and intention into your thoughts.  

Put thought and intention into the courage to put yourself out there.

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E-Harmony

May 21, 2017

Who is the 'real you'?

 

Are you fun and funny, sexy, feminine and smart, uniquely charming and charismatic?

 

Duh, of course you are!!

 

So why is it everyone around you seems to have someone…

 

And you can't meet a great guy that sees how freakin' awesome you are, adores you and pursues you???

 

Communication is the problem. The man - woman dynamic. When to give… and when to take.

 

Do you secretly think if you let your guard down and show the real you, men won’t like you or even stay with in a relationship with you?

  

Many women, strong, smart women are confused how to talk to men. How to act... to get them to do what you want. To love you the way you want to be loved.

 

I'm talking about Real Men.

 

Ladies, today you will learn a tried and true system to being and staying happy in your relationship, and even in marriage.

 

Your man wants you to be happy, so let him make you happy!

 

My guest today is the New York Times best-selling author Laura Doyle. Laura shares the secrets of her books, The Surrendered Wife, The Surrendered Single, Things Will Get as Good As You Can Stand and her new book, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors. 150,000+ women credit her with saving their relationships but also showing them how to become desired, cherished and adored.

 

Becoming a Surrendered and Empowered Woman  [4:07]

 

After a rough patch with her husband, Laura had a bag packed and was ready to get a divorce. She decided to find out the secret to a happy marriage instead. She surveyed women who had been in the same relationship for 15-years or more and took their advice.

 

Laura says she made her marriage into a laboratory. If something worked she kept it, if it didn't she threw it out. When her husband was happy to see her again she knew it was working.

 

Your intimacy skills are either working strongly for you or against you. If you are a woman who knows about your amazing feminine gifts share it with other women. We need to share.

 

We get no training with relationships and we jump in only to crash.  

 

How Do You Feel About Relinquishing Control [10:32]

 

It can be challenging for a modern woman to relinquish control in a relationship. Women need to be in control at work and have a hard time switching gears when they get home.

 

When women are controlling it can emasculate a man.

 

Laura reminds us girls, never to ask a man how he feels. Men are not the emotionally brilliant specimens we are, so don’t waste your time.

 

Magic Words and Phrases [18:20]

 

If your husband hurts your feelings or you feel slighted in some way, Laura says don’t expound on the issue. Simply saying “ouch” is enough to let him know he hurt you and your vulnerability lets him know you are not happy. Men will re-hear what they said and not you telling them how you feel. When you use this word the man apologizes to you so you don't have to apologize to him later.  

 

If you disrespect your man, say "I apologize for being disrespectful for doing xxx." Laura recommends saying it and then shutting up.  

 

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Laura Doyle 

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May 14, 2017

Have you ever heard someone say… “Attracting a great man is not about the size of your thighs” and thought…

Yeah, right!

I totally feel you!

Ladies, you are going to love this episode of the Dating Den!  

If you are like me you have let your emotional self and your physical self impact how you are with men and how you date. Be prepared to change your life!

So many of us have had problems with some kind of addiction. My guest today, Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson, turned her addiction from hard drugs into a food addiction before she educated herself about the science behind the addiction. Her Bright Line Eating program now helps people shed pounds and to build new futures.

Dr. Susan is an Adjunct Associate Professor of Brain and Cognitive Science at the University of Rochester and an expert on the psychology of eating. She is President of the Institute of Sustainable Weight Loss and CEO of Bright Line Eating Solution. She is the author of the New York Times Best Seller, Bright Line Eating.

The Science Behind Your Addiction  [12:26]

Simply said, sugar and flour are drugs. They are the refined essence of a normally non-harmful plant. They flood the pleasure center of the brain with dopamine after eating them. The brain will modify itself to moderate the dopamine receptors. It makes people who are considering giving up sugar and flour feel desperate and bleak. Food addiction looks the same as heroin or cocaine addiction.

If you are beating yourself up about your weight it’s because you don’t trust yourself after years of betraying yourself. You can build up your integrity around food. You can slowly break the addiction.

Dating and Hating [18:46]

It's hard to show up for dates in a body you don't like. Picking clothes based on how much they hide and not on how much they show. Wishing you were in a different body. It makes you feel like you have deep psychological issues. You make yourself believe something is wrong with you.

There is nothing like food addiction to make you hate yourself.

The Four Bright Lines [27:52]

Dr. Susan explains why most diets are not helping people to lose weight. She says most diets focus on what to eat and what not to eat and include an exercise program. But in reality, exercise sabotages your weight loss strategy. Willpower will abandon you because it gets exhausted. You will fall into the willpower gap.

Build automatic habits around your eating. Give yourself no choice. Your healthy eating happens whether you like it or not. Dedicate a few months to your diet and during the weight loss phase, rest. Don’t exercise.

Mantras [35:36]

Say it out loud with me ladies “That is not food! That is poison!” Now say it again and picture someone handing you an ice cream cone! “That is not food!”

 

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Bright Line Eating 14 Day Challenge

May 7, 2017

Dating an unavailable man is a big problem.

Not only are you not getting the kind of LOVE you want and deserve...

You’re wasting precious time. It’s just clicking by... day after day, week after week and you’re no closer to getting what you want.

But how can you tell if  a man is available for a relationship…

You know, without scaring him off or sounding like you’re giving him an ultimatum...

Is there a way to get him there faster?

Ladies you are going to love this awesome episode. It is an example of  real dating life.

Victoria is a Dating Den listener and a successful New Yorker. She has followed the dating suggestions from previous episodes and viola, she is dating a quality guy!

Victoria wants to be efficient while maintaining her femininity and remove the doubt about the future of the relationship. She’s not sure what the next steps are. So, let’s help her out.

Victoria Dated With Dignity  [3:36]

Victoria says it wasn’t easy to abstain from sex with her new guy. But, she knew she needed to set boundaries and remember her value. She also didn’t want to have the awkward morning after experience.

She wanted him to like her for her true self but admits it took practice to maintain her authenticity.  She allowed herself to be proactive and if he didn’t like it he could just float away and she would be OK.

It was an artful dance.

The Slower You Go the Faster You Get There [8:57]

Sex is a very intimate thing. A woman shouldn’t be afraid to talk to a man she has allowed into her lady space. Vulnerability is required when it is time for physical and emotional intimacy. Victoria is afraid to bring up the “relationship” conversation up even after hearing him describe her as his girlfriend.

Giving the Man an Ultimatum [12:10]

Victoria was unaware of it but she had already imposed on ultimatum on her new guy. She is looking to put a timestamp on how he should feel and at what stage their relationship should be in.

What a Man Needs [15:33]

Men don’t want to jump through hoops. They need guidance too. They need encouragement to feel confident. Show them how you feel and let them know you feel safe and comfortable through words.

Victoria is going to tell him how she feels then say what she wants and then stop talking.  

Women co-create the energy that makes a man feel safe.  

 

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