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The Dating Den

Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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Oct 27, 2017

Would you love to pop open your ability to earn more money? Whether you are struggling with financial security or feel like you are already on the top of your game, your money making mindset may be impacting your ability to connect with the high-quality man you want to have in your life.

My guest, the brilliant, awe-inspiring Julie Steelman earned her way out of the corporate world with a new style of feminine earning power known as Feminine Financial Intelligence (FFI). She is also the Creator of the Innovative Income Amplification System, Author of The Effortless Yes and has her Master’s in Spiritual Psychology.

Why Women Are Struggling with Having More Money [4:16]

Everything is changing. From natural disasters to the recent political challenges, we are standing toe to toe with evolution as structures and stories of the past are starting to crumble. Women are no longer willing to put up with certain things. Mother Nature is saying enough already! This is the time to develop a feminine empowered way to be with money. Chasing money doesn’t align with our feminine code.  Instead, of chasing money, we need to harvest and cherish it.

How Can Women Access Their Power and Be in Flow? [9:49]

Women often accept less and it can impact their earning power.  We may consciously believe ourselves to be the “less than” species or we need to people please to get what we know we deserve.

It’s time for women to shift their Feminine Financial Intelligence. When you know your inherent value and you are willing to express it in relation to other people, you stay in the flow of your femininity.

There are 3 areas of Feminine Financial Intelligence:

1. How we are in relationship to ourselves.
2. What is our relationship to the universe?
3. How we can express ourselves in an empowered way.

Don't compromise your value system.

Having Boundaries Without Being a Bitch [18:33]

Julie says a woman should stop treating people like they have leverage over her. Ask for something and put it in the context of what does the other person want. Helping someone else while helping yourself.

Women should see money and their career as a sacred resource to be harvested and cherished. You will hit a financial glass ceiling if you let money define your worth. To move past it, get in your flow & work with your energy, not against it.

Are Men Intimidated By You? [26:33]

Don’t chase money! It will compromise and minimize your impact. If you do, you will emasculate a man.  If you think you don't need a man because you have it all, it shows. If men are intimidated by it you may not have the right man for you.

Be willing to receive. Breathe deep into the seat of the feminine power center. You will get an intuitive energetic response.  

We may not need men for money but we can still use them for love.

 

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Oct 22, 2017

Life Happens! 

We can’t always plan the major changes in our lives. When something happens and we are called upon to become a caregiver for someone else, be it a child, spouse or parent it is so important we continue to take care of ourselves.  

I brought on David and Tamara Dachinger to share their experience of what Cancer and Lyme disease brought into their lives. They are the Co-Founders of Loving Meditations and they are dedicated to bringing calm to cancer. 

Their Loving Meditations App is the only app specifically designed to help cancer patients, survivors and caregivers by assisting them with their daily meditative practices. 

 

Don't Let Caregiving Take Over Your Life [2:56]

It's important to declare to yourself that you are going to take care of yourself when you are caring for someone else and continue to perform your own self-care rituals. 

Tamara's son was diagnosed with Lyme disease & her husband discovered he had Stage 4 Cancer all at the same time. Tamara had a meditative practice she could continue to help her cope with the added stressors in her life. 

David and Tamara’s book, Live Calm with Cancer and Beyond,  describes the power of a mindfulness and meditation practice and how easy it is to start one. 

 

Why a Meditation Practice Helps the Caregiver and the Patient [9:18]

David says Tamara was able to show up 1000% for him because she was taking care of herself. Plus, her normal energy levels could support David through the drama and negativity of his illness. 

It’s important to adopt a calming practice now so that when you do encounter one of life’s shitstorms you have a resource you can rely on. A practice develops a foundation of mindfulness. This practice doesn’t only apply to illnesses it can also apply to divorce, struggles, etc. 

Two Practices You Can Start Today: 

● Gratitude walks pair a somatic practice with a cognitive experience to help you make a shift. 

● Isolating an object and describing it fully is an instant calming, presence technique you can do anywhere. 

 

How to Measure the Effectiveness of Your Meditation Practice [25:41]

Meditation has an accumulative effect. If you are using calming tools the people for whom you are caring will pick up on it. If you are at ease they will be at ease.

 

David says the complete role reversal was no fun for him. The transition from giver role to receiver role was a difficult transition. Getting over feeling guilty was a lesson for him. 

Don’t worry, there is no way to meditation or mindfulness wrong. 

 

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Loving Meditation App 

 

Oct 8, 2017

Are you sick and tired of online dating? 

Does your online profile need a major overhaul?

Well, by the time this podcast is over you are going to be one badass online dating ninja. 

During the show, Nancy shares her online dating profile with me and I give her tips and some sure-fire ways to help her meet quality guys online. 

 

What Nancy Learned from Past Relationships [3:17]

Nancy’s past relationships haven't included guys who will make her a priority, fit into her non-negotiables (deal breakers) or who accept her boundaries. Nancy is a good example of a woman who learns from what doesn't work in relationships and then moves on to what she wants. 

Nancy's 5 Non-Negotiables:

● Family values

● Loyalty and honesty

● Integrity

● Fun and adventure 

● Being able to financially contribute to the relationship

 

Modifying Nancy’s Online Profile [7:04]

Changing the structure of your profile to put the attention-grabbing stuff first. You want to describe the guy who should be contacting you. “Here is what I picture our first date to be like, are you ready?” is an intriguing proposition.  Make your description like a job ad. If he meets the requirements then he gets a date. 

It’s important to be specific. Describe yourself with “I am the ....” and use “we are both …”. Fill in the blanks to attract your target market of available guys. 

Your online dating profile should paint a picture of how a guy will feel with you in his life. 

Other Tips That Pay Off [17:02]

● You should be engaging with the dating site for at least 20 minutes every day. 

● Get professional photos! Choose lifestyle photos that are hip and happening. fun, flirty and feminine.

● Consider guys that are a 70% compatibility match. 

● Go on one to two dates per week.

 

You are the common denominator. 

 

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Oct 1, 2017

Ladies this episode is filled with truth bombs! It will help you take action and become a woman who has everything she wants in a relationship. 

My guest today, Jayson Gaddis, is insightful, a genius and he is handsome. He is a teacher and a student of all things relationship. And as the host of The Smart Couple Podcast and Founder of the Relationship School, Jayson is on a mission to teach people how to ‘do’ romantic relationships. 

Jayson’s first book, For the Smart Couple, comes out this November.  You can also find his work in the Good Man Project, the Elephant Journal, YourTango and The Jungle of Life, to name a few. 

 

Mistakes in Relationships that Cause Conflicts  [03:56]

The biggest mistake people make is they think they know how to navigate upset or challenges. The truth is conflict can be a door or a doorway. If we see it as a door then it's an opportunity to get to know each other better and take the relationship deeper. 

Many people are afraid to speak their truths. Steps people can take to move past a conflict in a healthy manner is to admit you are afraid to set a boundary or that you are afraid of confrontations. It's normal and ok to be afraid but if we stay afraid we will end up with the same results. 

 

How to Manage Common Relationship Conflicts [10:17]

If you feel your needs are not being met it’s important to identify your non-negotiable needs. Think of a pyramid to understand the three things we fight about as couples. 

At the top of the pyramid is surface, everyday stuff.

The middle level is resentments.

The base or foundation is feeling secure. 

If one person doesn’t feel safe in the relationship look at what the real need is. If a partner feels the other is there for them then surface conflicts can be easily resolved. If a partner feels insecure about a relationship it may incite additional conflicts.  

 

Dealing with Security Conflicts in a Relationship [27:10]

There is no such thing as a couple that doesn’t experience some type of conflict. Plus, it’s OK and perfectly healthy to have a conflict in a relationship. The important piece to overcoming conflicts is to be proactive and address the issue early. Opening up, being vulnerable and being direct about what the issue is will help you both solve it together. 

Ladies, your words, and actions must match. You have to set boundaries if you are having a security conflict. If your actions don’t match it will send a message to your guy that you are not serious and he will think it's ok to be half in and half out of the relationship. 

Get clear about what you want and look at a conflict as a door way to a deeper relationship. 

 

Make a Connection:

Visit Our Website

Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here!

Follow us on Instagram @thedatingden

Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here!

Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP

Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates

Jayson Gaddis 

The Relationship School

 

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