Do you do what is necessary to manifest miracles in your life?
Would you like to manifest your miracle man?
My guest, Debra Poneman, has been teaching and preaching about how to be successful for over 40-years. She is a best-selling Author, Founder of the ‘Yes to Success Seminars’ and Co-Founder of the ‘Your Year of Miracles’ mentoring program. Debra shares the system with us so we can create miracles in our lives and find abundance, deep fulfillment and profound self-love.
Treat Everyone as the Most Important Person in the World [4:09]
After Debra finished a Yes to Success seminar a young, college-aged girl approached her and asked to be her secretary. Debra knowing that everything happens for a reason said yes and that young girl is now a NY Times Best-Selling Author and the Co-Founder of Your Year of Miracles, Marci Shimoff.
How to Create the Right Conditions for Your Man Miracle [10:14]
Miracle: a surprising and welcome event that can't be explained by science and is thought to happen by divine grace.
Debra says you can not actually create a miracle, you can create the space around you to be ripe for a miracle to occur.
Things to Do to Create and Live in Your Miracle Zone:
Be the Person You Want to Attract [26:13]
Debra shares her own personal journey of how practicing forgiveness and kindness kept her in integrity. Being the person you want to attract will bring what, or who, you are looking for into your life.
Find a place of love in your heart and send it out to people you find hard to love. Check out Your Year Of Miracles
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It’s almost the New Year, will your resolution be the same as last year and the year before that?
Will you feel shame about eating what you like at a holiday party?
Do you binge eat your favorite food because you feel sad?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above you need to listen to this show because my guest is an expert at creating sustainable, lasting change. Lydia Wente teaches women how to claim their freedom from the physical and mental woes of food and food struggles. She is also a pioneer in the eating disorder/comedy genre.
Lydia has helped lots of women finally be at peace with food.
Common Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Improve Their Relationship with Food [3:30]
A common mistake women make is trying to manipulate their bodies through a diet or restriction. It’s OK to improve our bodies but it should be done in a peaceful, sustainable, lasting way. When we say no more of our favorite foods it only makes us want it more.
Deprivation drives cravings.
When we fall off the wagon it distorts our relationship with food. Every time we restrict calories and try to force our bodies to be thinner it actually pushes up our set point weight.
Why Do We Base Our Self-Worth on Our Weight? [8:08]
Many of us make food a moral choice. Did we do good today or bad today based on what we ate? We make being thinner equate to how good we are doing in life. If we slip up and eat something we deem bad it makes us feel out of integrity with ourselves.
Women have so much shame around their food struggles they often don't share their stories. A woman’s partner may think the ups and downs have something to do with them or the relationship. It creates blocks in intimacy.
Detaching morality from food means basing our integrity on things that really matter.
How to Find Peace with Food [13:46]
Lydia says all the help we need is in our brains. Our relationship with food is just a habit. Once we break the cycle and become aware of the battle going on in our brains, we can use a neuro-hack to go into a place of allowing. When we own that we can have the foods we want then your brain starts to relax and it breaks the spell.
Lydia has a collection of ‘Calling Out the Chatter’ videos on Youtube to help women create a new habit of thought around food.
You don’t have to fix your whole life to change your relationship with food!
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Is your guy sending inconsistent signals?
If he is confused about what he wants? If so let him go.
Life is too short to be someone’s Geisha Girl!
Let’s Just Skip to the End [4:17]
Julie says she doesn’t understand why the process has to take so long? Why the dance of multiple dates? After 15 dates, shouldn’t she already know where the relationship is headed?
Julie is exhibiting Geisha Girl behaviors. Guys react two ways to Geisha Girls. One, holy crap I have a girlfriend I never signed up for or two, they feel overwhelmed.
Making Assumptions About a Guy’s Values [9:53]
How do you know if a guy has the same values you desire if you don’t know him long-term? If he hasn’t had a conversation with you or proven any of your assumptions, how do you know he is what you believe him to be?
Julie understands that our time on this earth is limited. She wants to know why she should have to wait 6-months to see if the guy is the one. But, by the third date she should share what her expectations are and her timeline to make sure the guys shares the same values and goals.
Ladies, leverage your assertiveness but do it in a feminine way.
Does He Have What it Takes or is He F’d Up? [20:19]
Julie describes her last interaction with a guy who constantly changes the game. He wants this, but then he feels smothered, blah, blah, blah.
Women need emotional safety in order to create true intimacy and he is not giving her any security. If he was really ready to be there for her, it wouldn’t be this hard. The guy’s inconsistency doesn’t make her feel safe.
It’s not your job to coach, fix or help a guy!
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How to Avoid Ghosting Before it Happens [03:20]
Sanjana was just looking to meet new people when she started communicating with a guy. She hinted towards a long-term relationship if things went well and he agreed. Sanjana allowed herself to play the cool girl, never addressing her needs and letting him lead the relationship. For two years they hung out with no clear direction to where the relationship might be going.
When you tell a guy what you want he needs to decide if he is stepping up or stepping out.
Lapping Up the Crumbs [12:17]
When Sanjana got the courage to tell the guy what she needed from him he may have felt blindsided. He would try to tell her what she wanted to hear to make her happy but he would never fully lean into or follow through with the plans.
Don’t Lose Your Dignity [14:18]
Sanjana continues to look for closure even after her calls and text go unanswered. She wants to know if she did something wrong but she is tired of expending energy trying to figure it out.
But, Sanjana already knows the answer doesn’t she ladies? Why would she want to continue hurting herself by hanging on to the unknown? She needs to let him go, forgive him and get back out there. When you date with dignity you don’t take ghosting personally.
Youtube Homework: Look up ‘Swingers movie’ answering machine scene. So you know what not to do!
Ghosting on Dating Apps [30:16]
Always be the person you want to attract when dating online. If you are not attracted to someone be honest and tell them if they send you a message. Practice good dating karma.
Ladies no matter what always remember, you are important, you are loved and you are significant.
Quality men do not hide behind dating apps.
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