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The Dating Den

Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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Apr 22, 2018

Do you buy stuff just to pass the time?

 

Do you keep stuff around just in case, maybe one day you will need it? 

 

Are you the most important person in your life?

 

My guest, Peter Walsh is the New York Times bestselling author of Let it Go: Downsizing Your Way to a Richer, Happier Life. He offers consultations for organizations to improve employee satisfaction and effectiveness and with individuals who want to declutter their space. You can catch him and his message on television, radio, and Youtube.

 

How to Get the Relationship You Want by Clearing the Clutter [3:56]

 

Stuff maybe concealing who you really are. Whether it is physical stuff or emotional stuff it may be keeping you from the relationship you really want. If you buy stuff to pass the time or in search of the happiness it is supposed to bring you may be using it to hide your true nature.

 

The two main types of clutter we have in our homes are memory clutter and the ‘I might need it one day’ clutter. We often hold on to memory clutter even when it has a malignant, negative effect on our lives and our happiness. Consider all your stuff and ask yourself if those items help you create the vision of the life you want to live and the relationship you really want.

 

What do you want from your life, your home, and your relationship?

 

Stuck in the Past? [15:36]

 

Peter says when we hold on to our memory clutter it only serves to keep us stuck in the past. Until we can let go of the memories we can not move forward into the future we deserve.

 

From the time they were little girls, many women are trained to constantly try to achieve perfection. But that is in direct conflict with creating the life they really want.

 

Clear out the clutter and watch children dance in the open space! 

 

Strategies to Clear the Clutter [20:06]

 

If you want to stop procrastinating and really work on removing your clutter, Peter recommends these three strategies.

 

  1. 1. Give time to what is important to you.
  2. 2. Remove the word later from your life.
  3. 3. Do the Trash Bag Tango.
  4. Start with your physical space and it will be reflected in your emotional space. 

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31 Days to Get Organized Challenge on Youtube

Apr 15, 2018

Have you accepted the life that’s been handed to you instead of the life you desire?

 

Let's get you out of meh and into marvelous.

My guest, Mary Shores is the best-selling author of Conscious Communications: Your Step by Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life. She is a Speaker and an Entrepreneur who started her empire at the age of 24. She blends her personal experience with neuroscience and human behavior to generate positive and pragmatic solutions for businesses and individuals who wish to defeat the freak-out and to create their ideal life.

 

Mary Openly Shares Her Story [3:10]

 

Mary was abandoned several times as a child. She says it planted a seed that grew into her becoming a teenage mother who lived on floors in emergency rooms with her child who had severe brain damage. As traumatic as her situation was it helped to build her strong character. She was a high-achiever who started her own business at 24. When she married she had little understanding of marriage or relationships and the relationship ended in divorce.

 

Dating in your early 20's is different than when you are more mature in your 30's and 40's.

 

Why Smart Women Do Not-So-Smart Things Around Men [7:33]

 

Smart women repeat patterns in their love life they would never do in their work life. When a smart woman attracts an emotionally unavailable man it may be a sign she needs to look inward to find the root cause because we attract what we are.

 

Women who are high-achievers often try to be something other than what they are.

 

Drop into your authentic and be more of who you are! 

 

Hacks to Defeat Fear and How to Get the Life You Want [15:58]

 

Our journey through life is not necessarily supposed to be a graceful one. Mary suggests creating a one-page action plan for growth. Decide on the ‘Core Four’ goals you would like to achieve and then reverse engineer what you want the outcome to be. Get specific about what it is you truly want and then dissect the steps needed to get you there.

 

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Heartline Retreat at the Monroe Institute

Apr 8, 2018

How well do you communicate your wants and needs?

 

Do you nag your partner and get hyper-sensitive about differences?

 

My guest, Andy Horning breaks down the challenges couples face and strategies to get them to experience the beauty of a real relationship, scars and all! Andy graduated from the University of Michigan. He is a Couples Therapist (and my couples therapist). He is the host of the Elephant Talk Podcast and he is a Teacher at THE institute for personal growth, The Hoffman Institute.

 

The Biggest Challenges Couples Have [2:46]

 

Couples often say the challenge in intimate relationships are bigger, deeper, and harder to crack than in any other types of relationship.  It’s because vulnerability plays a big part. When blending two lives together, it is hard to know when to give up or when to lean in and work through it.

 

Couples tend to make the other partner wrong in order for them to be right. Andy says it's good to separate your beliefs from the person you are dating or in a relationship with.

 

Do you know how to ask for what you want?

 

The Litmus Test of Love [10:11]

 

Andy encourages couples to notice and engage in differences. He says it is okay to notice and be aware of differences but not to the extreme of micro-managing your partner. The important thing is to talk about your differences with your partner from a place of understanding. Individuals in a partnership should own what they are feeling and then let go. It’s not their job to play both sides of the court, so to speak.

 

Vulnerability is super important, but it’s not easy.

 

Interest-Based Negotiations [17:46]

 

Going deeper into each person’s needs and interest can help couples work through difficulties or misunderstandings. When we stand shoulder-to-shoulder with our partner and put the issue in front of us, instead of between us, it is easier to work together to solve it.

 

The Damaging Myth of Romance and Love [22:17]

 

Andy says we should understand love comes with disagreements, discomfort and person growth. It doesn't come with a neverending unbridled joy. That's only in fairy tales and the mythology.

 

Looking at disagreements as a normal part of coupledom instead of letting differences put pressure on your relationship is key.

 

Couples can use intimate partnerships to create damage and pain or to get everything they want in their lives.

 

  Are You Feeling Disconnected? [30:05]

 

Andy says integrity is of the utmost importance when we communicate. Our internal message should match our external message. Our needs wants and vulnerability is important to express.

 

If you can simply say to your partner, “I’m feeling disconnected” it can make all the difference to your relationship.

 

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Andy Horning

Apr 1, 2018

Can you surrender your pain to a higher power?

 

Are you wallowing in your negative thoughts instead of preparing for your soulmate?

 

My guest, Arielle Ford is in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. She has spent 30 years living, teaching and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a brilliant speaker and co-creator and co-host of Evolving Wisdoms: Art of Love series. She is also the author of 11 books. Including the extremely influential, The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with The Law of Attraction.

 

Her deceased sister, Debbie Ford was internationally recognized for her work in personal transformation. She was a pioneering force in the study of the human shadow. Her recently discovered book includes deeply personal stories about her own personal journeys. It is a practical plan for transformation.

 

In today’s episode Arielle shares how her sister’s prayer book came into existence through the spiritual and physical realm.

 

How Did Debbie’s Prayer Book Evolve? [3:55]

 

Arielle was invited to experience a session with friend Channeler, James Van Praagh to talk with her sister Debbie's from the spirit world.  Debbie requested, and then insisted, Arielle, write a prayer book with her. A few days later, Arielle contacted Debbie's office and found out Debbie had already written the manuscript for her prayer book! Your Holiness: Discover the Light Within was then published shortly after.

 

There is an unseen higher self we can call upon to hold our hand through life.

 

Manifesting Love Through Quantum Science [19:23]

 

For those looking to manifest a soulmate, Arielle says the law of attraction states that we draw things that match our state of being. If you are in a state of feeling unlucky in love and unlovable, you are repelling love.

 

The Universal Truths of Quantum Science:

 

There is no time

We live in the field (Divine Matrix)

 

So, we are already connected to our soul mates! Start the relationship you want with your soulmate right now. Don’t be judgmental or overly hard on men. For some people, attraction takes a while. Just trust and have certainty.

 

What is Love? Baby Don’t Hurt Me [26:29]

 

Arielle divulges that real, adult soulmate love is not just a feeling. It’s a behavior, a practice, and a decision. There will be days when you do not like your soulmate. They may not show up in perfect form but they may be perfect for you.

 

Ladies, give a guy a second chance. Love takes time.

 

Make a Connection:

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Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP

Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates

Arielle Ford

Debbie Ford to Buy Your Holiness: Discover the Light Within and Get a Chance to Have a One-on-One Reading from James Van Praagh

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