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Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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Jun 24, 2018

In the den today, we discuss loving ourselves for who we are, appreciating the spectacularly ordinary things about life and living in the present. If you struggle with always wanting more and never being satisfied this episode will get you started on your path to enoughness.

 

Today’s guest, Geneen Roth is the author of ten books including three New York Times bestsellers. She works with people on their body image issues during retreats and has been featured on the View, Oprah, the Today Show and more. She is the Guru of Gratitude and the Siren of Satisfaction.

 

Janene Shares Her Personal Struggle [4:28]

 

Janene struggled with her weight and with food for many years starting at the tender age of 11. She always felt fat and repulsive. Then she realized it wasn't really about the food. Food was just her way of expressing her internal self-loathing and the belief that she was repulsive. At her core, she believed she was unlovable and damaged.

 

She would radically change her diet, switching from coffee and cigarettes to Atkins to Weight Watchers.  All she really wanted was to relax and love herself but instead, she used food to express her lack of self-worth and self-respect.

 

If I (fill in the blank) Then I Will... [7:44]

 

Not everyone has a challenge with food but everybody has the 'if...then' mentality. Janene says it is a human dilemma that displays our inability to be in the present moment. Our minds are always projecting and living forward. The challenge for us is to learn how to show up today.

 

So, how do we move from fixing ourselves to finding ourselves? Janene advises us to stop where we are, take a breath and become aware of who and where we are. In her new book, This Messy Magnificent Life: A Field Guide, Janene writes about disengaging from our judgemental voices. Our judgemental voices are not our friends. We should ask ourselves ‘what is not wrong right now?’.

 

98% of us are worrying about the future instead of appreciating now.

 

Practicing Gratitude  [24:05]

 

Being grateful for the ordinary, unremarkable moments in life is a surefire way to finding joy in our everyday lives. When we ask ourselves ‘what isn’t wrong right now’ we start to appreciate all the things that are right.

In our quick-fix culture, everyone seems to want everything right now. But, changing the way we think requires more than a one-time effort. Janene says we need to take small, daily steps to become comfortable with a new practice. It’s all a process in This Messy Magnificent Life.

 

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This Messy Magnificent Life: A Field Guide

Geneen Roth

Jun 17, 2018

In the den today, How to integrate a healthy, time-proven macrobiotic diet into your existing lifestyle.

 

Today’s guest, Denny Waxman is a global leader in macrobiotic education. Through the Strengthening Institute he has researched the diets of humans throughout history. The one consistent reality he found in past civilizations is easily digestible whole grains and vegetables are the keys to a healthy diet.

 

Denny is an internationally recognized Teacher, Counselor, and Writer on health, natural healing and macrobiotics, He has empowered thousands of clients with the ability to overcome a variety of health issues including low energy and infertility.  He also works with people who have cancer, type 2 diabetes, heart problems, and obesity.

 

What is a Macrobiotic Diet? [2:53]

 

When Denny’s team researched eating patterns from all over the world every culture had similarities. People have always subsisted on grains, beans, fruits and mushrooms. And, since human bodies run on glucose we need carbs. There are healthy, unrefined carbohydrates that are friendly to the body but you may not find them in a pastry.

 

When people say macrobiotics is a fad diet it false because it is the only way of eating that is not a fad. It's simply recorded history.

 

Grain eating people everywhere on the planet are thin.

 

Mindful Self Care Winds Back Our Biological Clock [5:45]

 

With a healthy diet and lifestyle practices we can literally turn back our biological clocks. If we take care of our body’s largest organ, our skin, when it renews itself every month it will serve us well for many, many years. One practice Denny recommends is rubbing the skin gently with a warm cloth to enhance circulation.

 

Date Foods to Reduce Bloating [19:04]

 

It seems to go against everything we hear in the media today but Denny says traditional Italian primavera pasta, salads, soups, and mexican foods are the best options to order on a date. Why? Because they digest easily and don’t cause that yucky bloated feeling. 

 

When in doubt, start with a soup. Soup activates digestion and can smooth the digestive process. Plus it’s filling so we feel satisfied.

 

Healthy foods have complete and balanced nourishment. Healthy habits beget healthy habits!

 

But I’m too Busy to Cook, What Can I Do to Be Healthier? [23:17]

 

It’s better overall to slow down and cook a healthy meal but busy women don’t always have the time. Denny says there are healthy restaurant options, canned, organic beans, and fresh take-out options.

 

Healthy food choices include:

 

  • ● Miso Soup
  • ● Raw, organic sauerkraut
  • ● Umeboshi Plums
  • The modern lifestyle and most of our food choices are acidic. This can cause unnecessary stress in our bodies. When we alkalize our bodies with healthy food options we feel clearer, positive and energetic. 
  • It takes a little effort to be healthier but it is totally worth it.

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Denny Waxman

The Strengthening Health Institute

Jun 10, 2018

In the den today, insights that will change the way you date!

 

Returning guest, Jordan Harbinger creates the life he wants to live. He offers up advice on how to deal with rejection and why it is important to trust your gut.  

 

Jordan has been called the Larry King of podcasting but of course is younger and much better looking. He is a Social Dynamics Expert. As host of The Jordan Harbinger Show, he deconstructs the playbook of super successful people and translates it into practical, consumable pieces for those who want to learn and live the life they desire.

 

Listen to Your Gut [9:25]

 

Jordan compares his previous career break to a relationship going sour. He knew he should leave his past career but his future was uncertain. He didn't have a clear plan and was apprehensive about 'losing' what he had. Then when things started to get really bad and an amicable split was impossible, he drew on his family and friends for emotional support and successful entrepreneurs for business advice.

 

Make a list of your assets and what you bring to the table to reflect upon when you need encouragement.

 

Are You Really Being Rejected? [20:50]

 

If you go out with someone a few times and you like them but they don’t like you in the same way it can feel like rejection. But, rejection seems to only happen early in a relationship when we get hung up on a person. Rejection is just an illusion of having a deeper relationship than what actually exists. Sometimes, we feel rejected but the other person just has a shallow filter. Kind of like when you limit your dating to only tall guys. It’s not that short guys aren’t a good fit for you, it’s that you never give them a chance.

 

Men stop contacting a woman for a variety of reasons. It is not because there is anything wrong with the woman. Men either aren’t ready for a relationship at that time in their life or the woman just isn’t a good fit.   

 

Guys want to settle down at different times. It has little to do with women.

 

Baggage Claim - Lose Your Luggage [30:50]

 

Jordan says women should be able to go out and have a good time on a date without constantly bringing up their past relationships. It can be overwhelming for a man to hear about a date’s past relationships when he just wants to have a drink and have fun.

 

Ladies, let your guard down! Don’t put your shield up if no one is attacking you.

 

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The Jordan Harbinger Show

Jun 3, 2018

The World’s Best Sex Educator is in the den!

 

Today’s guest, Lou Paget has been researching human sexuality for over decades. In the early 1990's, she began organizing women's focus groups on sex. She “turns on” the world with accurate information about sex. She facilitates seminars, educates people on the merits of sexual forrays, fantasies, fallacies and fears in a safe and open forum. Her books include, How to Be a Great Lover, and How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know. She has been featured in Cosmo, GQ, Jane, Real Sex TV and now she’s with Marni in the den.

 

What’s Up with 69? [6:59]

 

Lou says, the issue with 69 is that it takes women so much effort to drop off all outside stimuli to just focus on the physical. A 69 makes it hard to focus because there are so many things happening at once. Men are into it because they see it in porn, and in magazines. They have been programmed to like it.

 

Use 69 as foreplay and make the main course something more intimate.

 

The Biggest Questions Women Have About Sex [10:06]

 

If you are wondering why you can’t reach orgasm during intercourse you are not alone. It’s not like in the movies where couples always climax simultaneously. If you want to climax manual or oral stimulation is best. Women are more likely to reach orgasm when they are on top.

 

And, if you want a man to do what feels good to you, learn what you enjoy. Be open-minded about trying new things. If you want to try adult toys, ask your partner if they are open to the idea. Don’t be shy, it’s just sex.

 

Only about 20% of women orgasm during intercourse!

 

Trends in Sexual Health [23:33]

 

Stem cells occur naturally in the body but the use of them for sexual health is very trendy right now. Lou says if a woman has lost elasticity in her clitoris or labia during menopause, stem cells or platelet-rich plasma (PRP’s) can be injected locally to bring back the fullness of tissue and improve bladder control function. Men can use stem cells to alleviate erectile issues.

 

Erectile Dysfunction is Real [27:43]

 

For men over 40, erectile dysfunction is a very real condition that can make having an erection iffy. If they are stressed, on medication or not frequently masturbating it will be something a female partner needs to consider. The use of antidepressants can cause sexual dysfunction for both men and women.

 

Don’t let erectile dysfunction stop your sexual fulfillment. Touching can be as arousing as penetration. There are many other ways to achieve sexual intimacy.

 

You don’t have to have intercourse in order to be satisfied sexually.

 

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