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The Dating Den

Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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Nov 30, 2018

Do you need help dating and understanding men?

Do want insights on what real quality men do, think and feel?

Would you like to meet a quality guy NOW?  

 

Marni welcomes Chris G. to the podcast to walk women through what a man is thinking when he is looking for more than a hookup. Chris helped build the awesome manimal profile and is an active member of the man panel.

 

Don’t You Forget About Me: Why Men Orbit [4:54]

 

Orbiting is when a guy stops calling and texting but still likes your social media posts and pics. So, why would a guy do this? It can be frustrating, especially if you liked him.

 

Chris says men like to keep women on tap until another option becomes available. If a woman has made her intentions clear and the guy doesn’t share the same relationship values then by not blocking him she is just contributing to the behavior. Chris believes that women are masters at keeping men available to them and maybe women want men to stalk them.

 

If a woman truly wants to move on she:

 

  1. Removes the things that may trigger her past.
  2. Remembers that guys don't change even if they see how awesome you are.
  3. Contemplates why she is keeping her options open?

 

If you want to move on make yourself un-orbital!

 

The Secret to Getting a Man’s Attention [12:45]

 

Even in beauty soaked Los Angeles, Chris and his friends put less value on physical attractiveness when using Bumble or Tinder. He says “beauty always wears off.” He loves intelligent conversations and laughing with the right girl, the right combination is important.

 

But, THE best and most empowering way to meet a woman, for a man, is for him to go up to her ‘live’ and start a conversation.

 

That’s why Marni and team teach the special secret sauce to women which helps them to really stand out online. They create photos that are evocative of who the woman really is.

 

Chris’s advice —

 

  • Don't be vanilla in the corral of online dating. Stand out.
  • Use your real life smile. No duck lips.
  • An authentic smile is sexier and more attractive to a man.
  • Be real, be you.

 

A man’s goal ultimate goal is to attain a sustainable relationship where the woman and man have integrity and shared common values.

 

Make Yourself Available for a Real Life Encounter with a Quality Man  [23:41]

 

If a real-life connection is what a woman truly wants then why do women close themselves off? Sitting with resting bitchface, arms closed, acting uninterested are all ways to block communication attempts from a quality guy.

 

Chris wants to see a woman who isn't fake or blocked off. It shouldn't be a trial by fire for someone to approach you. No one wants to fight through the armor. He says women are about love. It's their feminine energy that men will fight wars and build temples for. Because men need a woman’s love.

 

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Nov 9, 2018

In this special one-year later coaching update episode, client Julie shares the positive direction her life has taken since following the Release, Reveal, and Rejuvenate process. Julie is a smart, successful woman who thought that leaning into her feminine would be perceived as weak. She is now in a relationship with a man who shares her passions and values.

 

It’s Now or Never [2:21]

 

Before contacting Marni, Julie had been dating a guy on and off for about 5-months. Just keeping the relationship alive was costing her her friends and her self-worth. If he called she would drop whatever plans she had just to see him. She felt if she didn’t take the time and the effort with this guy she would never meet another high-quality guy.  She felt like it was her last chance to find true love.

 

She felt like she was leading and pushing the relationship towards where she wanted it to go. She started struggling with depression. All of her thoughts became consumed with him.  She was doing things for him but nothing for herself. On the outside, Julie looked like she had it all together. The rest of the world had no idea Julie was losing herself over a guy.

 

The crisis point came when he canceled a weekend trip with little to no explanation.

 

After being coached by Marni on the podcast, Julie had the verbal framework and the courage to have the conversation she needed to have. But, she waited two months to get the words out because she was afraid of what the outcome would be. She knew it would be a game changer for her. She truly believed there were no high-quality men in her future.

 

Reveal, Release, Rejuvenate [14:27]

 

Julie realized she was in her masculine and trying to control and create instead of going with the flowing and being the person she truly is. There was no room for the guy to be in her life or to get to know her. She recognized she needed ongoing support. She joined the Reveal, Release, Rejuvenate process.

 

What made the reveal, release rejuvenate process different than other personal development work she had done is that in just 10-weeks she was able to overcome her limiting beliefs for the long-term. By focusing on finding herself instead of finding a man, she was able to let herself be seen in all aspects of her life.  

 

Spending time in her feminine allowed Julie’s core essence to blossom and be comfortable with being seen.   

 

Then Versus Now: How Julie Changed Her Life  [21:47]

 

In just one year after working with Marni’s program, Julie says she is no longer on antidepressants, her work life is amazing, and she has multiple opportunities to do the things she loves. She is now in a relationship with a man she calls emotionally intelligent and kind. They share common values and passions.

 

So, what changed for Julie?   

 

When Julie started changing her beliefs about herself and showing more of her true self to the world she started attracting things and people she deserved. She used to think that being in her feminine and being vulnerable made her weak. But, after the Reveal, Release, and Rejuvenate process she feels comfortable sharing her hopes and fears.

 

Six months ago, Julie says she never would have believed that she could be in a relationship that feels so natural.  

 

Make a Connection:

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Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here!

Follow us on Instagram @thedatingden

Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here!

Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP

Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates

Nov 2, 2018

On dating sites, do you just look at profile pics and pass up guys before even reading their profiles? Are you attracted to guys who only contact you sporadically or worse, stand you up? In this coaching session, Marni unravels the reasons why Susan always falls for the wrong guy, why she doesn’t truly feel safe dating, and how she can create an emotionally safe space for herself.

 

Where Are the High-Quality Guys? [1:17]

 

Susan started online dating four months ago and has chatted with a lot of guys but isn't finding men she feels match her. She did like two guys but they were both emotionally unavailable. The last guy she dated stood her up three times. She knows he doesn’t bring anything to the table. He is basically a crumbs guy.

 

Susan asks Marni these key questions about online dating:

 

  • There are plenty of men online but none she believes are high-quality men. Are her expectations too high?
  • How do you start communication with a virtual stranger?
  • What are the right questions to ask potential dates to qualify or disqualify them?

 

Susan’s limiting beliefs are:

 

  • She is too much.
  • She has lost the feminine energy.
  • She likes being in a powerful position.

 

Vulnerability is Not a Weakness [6:35]

 

Susan shares her experience of chatting up someone who she finds incredibly sweet but she has already envisioned the challenges they would possibly face in the future. She is afraid of being hurt, rejected, or disappointed.

 

Susan doesn’t truly feel safe dating and is showing up as being emotionally unavailable. Marni points out that it may stem from her early childhood when her father died when she was only 11-years-old. She learned that love isn’t safe and being in control is important for her.

 

The problem is when you are emotionally unavailable you attract other emotionally unavailable people.  

 

Creating Emotional Safety [19:50]

 

Marni asks Susan to be reflective of her choices when dating. What is driving her decisions? Does she just want what she can’t have due to the losses she endured in her life?

 

When Susan creates her own emotional safety she won’t need to control every situation and she can show up in dating feeling really good about who she is.

 

The most self-loving thing she can do is to put her dating on hold and focus on her own emotional needs right now.  

 

How Important is Physical Attraction in Online Dating [30:05]

 

How important is a potential date’s physical appearance when browsing profiles online?  

 

Marni recommends reading a guy’s profile first. If his core values match your core values then consider how attracted you are to him. Studies have shown that if a man meets a woman’s core values his attractiveness automatically increases.

 

When dating online, screen a profile for values first then consider the photos.

 

Make a Connection:

Visit Our Website

Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here!

Follow us on Instagram @thedatingden

Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here!

Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP

Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates

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