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The Dating Den

Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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Dec 28, 2018

Women are statistically more depressed than men and depression is beginning earlier and earlier in our lives. Despite what you have been told achievement is NOT the key to happiness and well-being.

 

Marni welcomes leading happiness expert, Karen Rockind to discuss the simple daily decisions you can make to create more joy in your life. Karen is the creator of Purpose Girl, a movement that empowers purpose driven living, and Women’s Global Happiness Day. She has . taught thousand of people real-life strategies to reclaim their happiness, to live to the fullest potential of success and well-being. She is a survivor of divorce, domestic abuse, and a life-changing armed robbery which proved as a catalyst for her to finally pursue her passion of helping women thrive.

 

The Science of Happiness  [5:41]

 

For millennia, psychologists studied only illnesses including anxiety and depression even though only 30% of the population had a diagnosed mental illness. When about 20-years ago, a professor decided that instead of ignoring 70% of the population he would integrate the study of happiness into his work.

 

Now, conventional wisdom and social pressures have made many women believe they must meet a certain criteria in order to be happy. But, Carin says it’s not true. Women may have been taught achievement  will make us happier but research shows the opposite. Happiness should come first.

 

Surviving is not thriving!

 

How to Create Well-Being and Happiness [10:46]

 

Daily choices can make the biggest difference in your happiness level. Happiness is an very individual thing but there are pathways that can bring happiness and fulfillment. Happiness is a choice.

 

Pathways to Happiness:

 

  • Focus on the positive in a situation.
  • Have hobbies or work you love.
  • Have healthy, thriving relationships.
  • Do something that matters to you and gives you purpose.
  • Achievements in areas that matter to you.

 

Redefining happiness for yourself is being your whole self and going after what you desire. Get some soul sisters. Soul sisters will launch you into a whole new level of happiness, joy and support!

 

You should control your life. Don’t let your life control you.

 

Happiness and Dating  [24:49]

 

Any man will tell you, confidence and purpose is super sexy. A woman who is doing something that really matters to her, feels filled up on living which makes you show up as an empowered goddess. You can make their own fun id you are filled up by life.

 

Feel good about who you are!

 

Uncover Your Purpose By Listening to the Whisper of Your Soul  [27:58]

 

Carin says there are three questions you can ask yourself to uncover your purpose.

 

  1. What are my regrets?
  2. What am I jealous of other women about?
  3. What can I learn from my childhood dreams?

 

After exploring what gives you purpose start playing with your dreams. Picture yourself doing what you want to be doing. How does it feel to be doing it? How does your day start? Is there someone already doing what you would like to be doing? Look for mentors and call them. Little steps can help you realize big dreams.

 

You are the creator of your own life.  Make it awesome!

 

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Carin Rockind - Purpose Girl

Women’s Global Happiness Day

Dec 21, 2018

If your vision for the future includes travel and meeting someone to share magical experiences with, this is the episode for you.

 

Marni welcomes Alex Jimenez aka Travel Fashion Girl to the Den to talk about the importance of having clothes that meet your personal style when traveling. Alex shares tips for packing light, how to create a travel capsule and how traveling light can make your more irresistible to meeting a guy on the road.

 

Alex lived a nomadic lifestyle out of a single carry-on suitcase. She combined her experience with her background in business to create her company, Travel Fashion Girl. It is the number one blog for female travelers with over 1 million monthly visitors. She has been on Fox & Friends Morning Show, and featured online in Cosmo, Harper's Bazaar, New York Post, USA Today and more.

 

When the Travel Bug Bit Alex  [3:19]

 

There was a single moment when Alex was on a vacation with her mother when she was mesmerized by the beauty of the island and realized she needed to travel more. After quitting her job she kept her promise to herself and traveled full-time for almost a decade.

 

She started her journey by joining group tours but became inspired by the solo women travelers she met along the way. And then, during a solo trip around the world, she met her husband!

 

How to Make Connections When Traveling Solo [7:06]

 

Alex says traveling with other people provides a safety net because there is always someone to talk to. When traveling alone you have the opportunity to strike up conversations with strangers and to be more open.

 

Tips for Women Travelers:

 

  1. Don't travel with a friend
  2. Put your phone down
  3. Do your research
  4. Ask questions about fellow travelers

 

When you put yourself in a new environment, out of the normal bump and grind at home you become more of an approachable person. In a beautiful place, you can feel more attractive, confident, and free to be in the moment.

 

These tips can be used to meet men anywhere!

 

How to Travel Light with Travel Fashion Girl  [14:15]

 

Alex felt hindered by her heavy travel bags. She did some research and spoke with other travelers who chose to travel light before creating her unique Travel Fashion Girl blog. She recommends thinking about how excessive luggage could impact your experience.

 

You can’t hop on the back of a motorcycle when you have heavy bags!

 

The key to packing light and looking good is less about being stylish and more about feeling comfortable in your skin. Pack your favorite clothes. When you look good, your confidence will show through and you'll feel more outgoing. So, instead of packing giveaway clothes pack to enhance your personal style.

 

Travel Fashion Girl Tips:

 

  • Research the weather at your destination.
  • Start with 10 core pieces.
  • Keep it simple.
  • Pack tops that can be layered.
  • Don't take more than 3 pairs of shoes.
    • Shoes you plan to walk in — Wear stylish comfortable shoes on the plane
    • Activity shoes — hiking or work out shoes
    • Dress up or sightseeing shoes

 

Alex has been using the same backpack for years. She just doesn't want to replace her Rebecca Minkoff Julian backpack. It fits everything she needs.

 

Meet Your Man on Your Next Solo Trip  [27:32]

 

Alex wasn’t expecting to meet her husband during her round-the-world-trip but there he was seated right next to her on the plane. She says traveling is the perfect way to meet your partner because you get to see a person's true side. You can see how they react to delays, changed plans, and disappointments. If you are serious about someone, or in a new relationship go on a trip together. It is so telling about how you both will handle adversity.

 

Alex’s #1 Tip is to follow your gut and listen to your instincts!  

 

Homework: Marni asks you to consider how you can practice being your most authentic self and how can you bring adventure into your life.

 

Explore, put your phone down, and be who you really are in a new environment. Travel Solo!

 

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Travel Fashion Girl

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Dec 14, 2018

In this one-on-one coaching session, Nicole, 34, shares her latest relationship struggle. She has been dating a guy who doesn’t share her relationship values but there is some magnetic connection between the two of them. She asks Marni for guidance on how to move forward and get the type of relationship she deserves.  

 

The Impact of Rejection  [2:57]

 

Nicole shares the core relationship values the right guy would embody:

 

  1. Integrity
  2. Compassion
  3. Sense of Humor
  4. Honesty
  5. Empathy for Other

 

But, when Marni dissects Nicole’s current relationship the message is clear. The guy she is currently dating doesn’t share the same values. He has been sketchy with her, starting and stopping communication when he wants it, not being where he said he would be, and sometimes not even showing up for dates.

 

His behavior is triggering trust issues for Nicole. She formed these issues in her early childhood based on her relationship with her father. She is attracting emotionally unavailable men because it feels familiar!  

 

For some people love is being a martyr and for some people love needs to be earned.

 

When Trust and Honesty are Missing in a Relationship [17:12]

 

Even though Nicole didn’t experience trauma or excessive drama in her childhood, she still only got love from her father when he was around. A behavior pattern was created when she was young that she could only get love on a man’s terms and when he was available. Many of her other past relationships, including her marriage, reflect the same behavior.

 

She recognizes there is a lack of trust in the relationship but she’s not sure how to break her life-long relationship patterns.

 

How to Break Unhealthy Relationship Patterns  [20:46]

 

Nicole considers maintaining a relationship with the guy but only as friends, no romance. But, he has already given her the disclaimer. He is getting all the boyfriend privileges without the boyfriend responsibilities. Nicole’s aha moment comes when she realizes he has already told her what the future would look like based on his actions.  She just hasn't been listening.

 

Marni recommends her that if she wants someone who has shared values and is committed to finding a true partner she needs to trust herself. And, she needs to make any guy she dates aware of her relationship goals. The guy needs to meet her expectations now, not just talk about how he might meet them in the future.  Nicole needs to tell him that he doesn't make her feel safe emotionally and make it clear to him his actions have consequences.

 

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Dec 7, 2018

In this one-on-one coaching session, Marni works with Jesse to shift her mindset and online profile. Jesse uses her online dating profile to meet men but she is not meeting the quality guys who share her same values. Marni peels back the layers to uncover that while Jesse is deeply committed to her kids and active lifestyle, her online profile doesn’t reflect her core values.

 

Dating with Kids  [5:59]

 

Jesse admits she may have been a tad naive about going into the dating world with kids. She thought it wouldn't be an issue because everyone has a past. When several attempts with traditional dating methods didn’t pan out, Jesse joined an online dating site hoping to filter through guys who were not in her same family situation.

 

She created her online dating profile to focus on the things she thought would be fun to do on a date. What she left out were her core values around her family life. So, it makes sense that she is attracting men who don't have the same values.

 

If you want to attract your perfect partner, your online dating profile should reflect your top 5 core values.

 

The Importance of Marketing Your True Self Online [15:03]

 

Marni says not putting your values in your profile will cause unnecessary dating and sifting through men who won't fit into your life. If you make your values known, the right guy who has the same core values will be attracted to your profile.

 

Whoever you are dating, especially if they have never had kids, they will never understand what it is like to be a mom. The guy needs to understand that no matter how good the relationship is, their wants and needs may become a secondary.

 

To Write the Best Online Dating Profile:

 

  1. Lean in to your true self and your core values. What it is like to be a good parent?
  2. Make sure the right guy knows he needs to share your values.
  3. Let him know that you will make time to make him feel special.
  4. Paint a picture of what the relationship will look like.

 

Market Yourself to the RIGHT Guy: Jesse’s Homework  [23:58]

 

Marni gives Jesse some homework that will improve her dating life and increase her chances to meet Mr. Right.

 

  1. She needs to write down her core values.
  2. She needs to consider what she is doing in her life that reflects those core values.
  3. She needs to remove her current online profile and write a new one that paints a picture of her core values.
  4. She needs to forget her old story and lean into who she really is.
  5. She needs to shift her mindset from having kids while dating is an asset, not an issue.

 

To all the ladies out there who are struggling with the same dilemma —

 

The more self-accepting and authentic you are the higher your chances are to find the right guy who knows you are his dream girl.  

 

Make a Connection:

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