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The Dating Den

Each week on the podcast, I’ll be interviewing the world’s top experts in attraction, dating, communication, sex, and relationships, as well as coaching real women LIVE, through their real life dating challenges… that are probably a lot like yours!
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Jul 26, 2019

Marni and Man Panelist Chris Gillis commentate a play-by-play of The Bachelor 2019 semi-finals and how it relates to real-life dating obstacles. They break down the obvious narcissism, the mature display of anger, and how to properly handle a breakup. Hannah hasn’t made her final decision yet but Chris and Marni may already know who she will choose!

 

Somebody Save Me? [2:43]

 

Marni and Chris break down the moment in the Bachelor when it mirrors real-life relationships between narcissists and the people who are attracted to them. They grapple with why someone smart and beautiful like Hannah could be attracted to someone who is emotionally abusive.

 

Then, in what was easily the most impactful part of the show, Hannah speaks directly to the viewers and asks for forgiveness for her insecurity-driven choices. Chris appreciates her move and expands on it as an example of the things that make dating so hard.

 

Ladies, just because a man likes you doesn’t mean you have to like them!

 

How to Be Clear About Breaking Free [15:34]

 

Marni and Chris discuss the decisive moment when Hannah moves the podium as a physical boundary, to represent the emotional boundary she was actively enforcing. But even though she was saying it was over she continued to defend herself and create a new avenue for manipulation.

 

You have to right to disengage when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries!

 

How to Let a Relationship End [22:33]

 

If you have ever been on the receiving end of a breakup, you know it can be hard to accept. If the other person believes, even for a minute, there may be a chance to get back together they will act on it. Chris recommends closing the door completely when breaking up with a guy, especially manipulators. Being direct is best when saying goodbye and do not apologize for your actions.

 

Predictions for the Next Episode of The Bachelor [31:21]

 

If Hannah heals and moves on, Chris predicts a close call between her choosing Tyler or Jed. But Marni says even though Jed is leaking his unavailability, Hannah will still pick him. Remember that Jed is in an offscreen relationship that his parents don’t approve of. The finals are a must watch!

 

 

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Jul 19, 2019

In this very special solo episode, Marni offers up some tools and guidelines about how to deal with a ‘ghoster’ or a non-communicative guy after you have started dating. She describes how you deal with the situation internally without having it kill your joy. And, when it’s appropriate to communicate with him to find out why he disappeared or is being inconsistent. 

 

It’s Him, Not You [4:04]

 

The most important thing to remember if a guy starts exhibiting this behavior is that you are awesome. His behavior is in no way a reflection of who you are. Know at your core that you are completely lovable and enough.

 

Are you initiating on a date? The man should have the space to pursue you and ask you out. Remember, the dating process is designed to help you know if another person is a match for you. Nothing more, nothing less. And, what happens between you and the person between dates is just as important as the data you collect on a date.

 

Ladies, Your job is to know you are awesome, to be cautiously optimistic, and to understand what the person has earned from you based on his behavior.

 

When we start to like someone we open up to get all mushy and soft and then something happens so we put our walls up and are not sure how to respond. If this happens:

 

  • ● Do not get attached to the outcome because you don't really know who the person is anyway.
  • ● Don't shut down and stand-offish.
  • ● Just stay empowered and chill.
  • If you have gone out on 3 or 4 dates and a gap exists in your communication it is ok to call and question the situation. A quality guy will respond and let you know what is up.
  • Don’t Waste Your Time [10:43]
  • When you finally have a conversation you need to figure out where things are going and get your questions answered.
  • ● If a guy just disappears bless him and release him. He just told you how he would be in the future,
  • ● If you text and he doesn’t answer let it go. You don't need penpals. This situation will create too much emotional clutter.
  • If you have been talking with someone and go on a few dates but then a week goes by and you don't hear from him use this strategy — if it’s between the 5th and the 8th day of a guy disappearing send a message that asks a simple question that allows him to re-engage.
  • Tell him that this isn't moving forward like you prefer and let it go!

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Listen to episode 25 with Michael Goldstein

Jul 12, 2019

Do you know how to raise your energy level? Do you know how raising your vibration can help you to attract high-quality men into your life? If not, this episode is exactly what you need right now. Marni welcomes Nova Wightman to the show. Nova is an expert in conscious manifestation, an author, a speaker, reiki master, and a Conversations with God coach. 

 

She helps spiritual seekers become spiritual rock stars. By blending spirituality with humanity you can enjoy life and all the beautiful things it has to offer. During this episode, you will learn more about conscious manifestation, and how to align it with who you are and raise your vibration to become your most authentic self. 

 

Increase Your Energetic Vibration to Get the Life You Want [3:14]

 

Type ‘A’ people may believe they already exist in a higher vibration but stress and constant stimulation are actually on the lower part of the vibrational spectrum. If you live in a constant state of activity you can benefit by raising your vibration. Raising your vibration will make you feel better and have an improved state of being. Basically, you will access more magic by letting in different aspects of yourself through. Assisting you in meeting other people who exist in a more peaceful state of being. 

 

If your thoughts are high but your physical body feels constricted it is a signal that you may have some work to do. 

 

Take a proactive approach to your well-being, dating, and relationships by incorporating a daily practice into your life. Because it is not actually the person or relationship we want, it is how the connection makes us feel that attracts us. 

 

You don't need a yoga mat, you don’t need to light candles, or have a special place for your practice. It’s simply about cultivating consistency about turning your attention inward. It's about cultivating a strong bond within you so that over time, everything is strengthened. It's building a proactive foundation. 

 

Different Ways to Raise Your Vibration [18:24]

 

Nova recommends the simple practice going back to the common childhood practice of daydreaming. It's powerful as a meditation technique. Just quietly thinking about the things that light you up and charge your system. No matter the technique you choose be it a walking meditation, binaural beats, chanting, etc.  It’s about the absence of resistance in your life. Meditation doesn’t have to be the same thing every day. Choose the right thing for you. 

 

Remember, if you start from a distracted place it can be hard to jump to the higher states of joy you wish to attain. Getting too specific can invite the mind to conjure up limitations such as yeah, but. Stay simple.

 

If you have to ditch the daydreaming because it's not working repeat a mantra or listen to a guided meditation. And, instead of beating yourself up or feeling as if you will never do it right, realize something is distracting you so try and change-up your practice. 

 

You will recognize when your intuition is reaching out over your ego when fear and worry are removed from your thoughts. 

 

Have the Right Expectations  [30:15]

 

It’s important to remember that the universe is balanced. There will always be ups and down, yin and yang. You can not eliminate all the negative aspects of life. Having a daily practice is all about recovering to the higher state more easily and gracefully so you can stay in the sweet spot of alignment more often than not.  

 

Manifestation is about setting your intention and asking the universe to bring the best, most aligned thing for you. Be careful not to be too specific about what you want in your life because when you exist at a higher vibration you will get what you desire. Be sure to ask the universe for the best match for you, not a specific person. 

 

Keep your vibration high so the door to the universe will stay open and the cosmic delivery person can come and deliver you what you need.

 

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Jul 5, 2019

Traditionally, women earn less than men and are more likely to take breaks from earning to have children or care for elderly parents. As a result, by the time women reach retirement they have less money than men plus they live five years longer. To discuss how women can make their money last longer, Marni welcomes money master, Jean Chatsky into the Den. Jean shares tips for women who want to stay healthy, wealthy, and stable no matter what their relationship status is. 


Jean launched Her Money Media, Her Money podcast, and the website HerMoney.com to provide women much-needed, accurate information about money. She's the award-winning financial editor of NBC Today. She has appeared on CNN, The View, The Talk, and created a The Debt Diet program for Oprah’s audience.  She is a best-selling author, a motivational speaker, AARP’s financial ambassador, and a fierce advocate for financial literacy. Her new book, Women with Money: The Judgment-Free Guide to Creating the Joyful, Less Stressed, Purposeful (and, Yes, Rich) Life You Deserve is available now.

 

But I Already Have My Own Money [3:17]

 

If you are a woman who has already created her own wealth, don’t forget the prenup, or postnup. We’ve all moved past the old stereotypes surrounding prenups. Mature, loving relationships are built on trust and understanding. A prenup is not a scary document. It just negotiates how financial entities will be handled should something happen to the marriage. 

 

Jean’s advice — Each partner should go into it with an understanding that this is how to take care of ourselves and each other. There are different ways to craft the document. 

 

A prenup is simply financial planning for a secure future.

Specifically, when it comes to relationships women worry that they won't know how to maneuver a death or divorce. Remove the fear that you might be left holding the bag with not enough resources with a clear understanding of your financial picture. 

 

The most important thing is to actually talk about these things with our significant other. Being on the same page about the future financials helps eliminate possible blocks down the road in our relationships. 

 

The More You Know About Money [8:51]

 

Bringing up money conversations during dating can seem invasive. But, there is a lot you can learn about a date's financial picture without directly asking. Pay attention to hints during initial conversations. 

 

When it gets more serious it's important for a woman to ask:

 

  1. What do you earn?
  2. What do you own?
  3. What do you owe?

 

It shouldn't be embarrassing to ask these questions. If you are going to have a financial problem, it's better to know about it sooner than later.  

 

Don’t share your credit scores on the first date but have a money conversation when the relationship gets serious. 

 

Money & Love  [20:58]

 

Jean’s new book, Women with Money: The Judgment-Free Guide to Creating the Joyful, Less Stressed, Purposeful (and, Yes, Rich) Life You Deserve tackles the ‘why we are the way we are with money’ topic. She says, “You need to understand why the person you share a bed with is the way they are with money. That means getting a grip on your own money story too.” Research your financial DNA. 

 

The more you understand your money story the more you can guide your partner to explore their own. 

 

The key to making yourself financially secure is to start saving automatically every time you get paid. Set a savings goal for yourself. When we are able to stand on our own two feet financially it enables us to make better choices when accepting other people into our lives.

 

Making the choice to add someone into our lives when we know we are able to do it by ourselves is a clear choice, free of fear. 

 

Make a Connection:

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Download a Complimentary Copy of our Book - How to Find a Quality Guy Without Going on 200 Dates

Her Money Website

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