The World’s Best Sex Educator is in the den!
Today’s guest, Lou Paget has been researching human sexuality for over decades. In the early 1990's, she began organizing women's focus groups on sex. She “turns on” the world with accurate information about sex. She facilitates seminars, educates people on the merits of sexual forrays, fantasies, fallacies and fears in a safe and open forum. Her books include, How to Be a Great Lover, and How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know. She has been featured in Cosmo, GQ, Jane, Real Sex TV and now she’s with Marni in the den.
What’s Up with 69? [6:59]
Lou says, the issue with 69 is that it takes women so much effort to drop off all outside stimuli to just focus on the physical. A 69 makes it hard to focus because there are so many things happening at once. Men are into it because they see it in porn, and in magazines. They have been programmed to like it.
Use 69 as foreplay and make the main course something more intimate.
The Biggest Questions Women Have About Sex [10:06]
If you are wondering why you can’t reach orgasm during intercourse you are not alone. It’s not like in the movies where couples always climax simultaneously. If you want to climax manual or oral stimulation is best. Women are more likely to reach orgasm when they are on top.
And, if you want a man to do what feels good to you, learn what you enjoy. Be open-minded about trying new things. If you want to try adult toys, ask your partner if they are open to the idea. Don’t be shy, it’s just sex.
Only about 20% of women orgasm during intercourse!
Trends in Sexual Health [23:33]
Stem cells occur naturally in the body but the use of them for sexual health is very trendy right now. Lou says if a woman has lost elasticity in her clitoris or labia during menopause, stem cells or platelet-rich plasma (PRP’s) can be injected locally to bring back the fullness of tissue and improve bladder control function. Men can use stem cells to alleviate erectile issues.
Erectile Dysfunction is Real [27:43]
For men over 40, erectile dysfunction is a very real condition that can make having an erection iffy. If they are stressed, on medication or not frequently masturbating it will be something a female partner needs to consider. The use of antidepressants can cause sexual dysfunction for both men and women.
Don’t let erectile dysfunction stop your sexual fulfillment. Touching can be as arousing as penetration. There are many other ways to achieve sexual intimacy.
You don’t have to have intercourse in order to be satisfied sexually.
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