Marni welcomes Shyama Mathews to The Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses what it means to go through menopause and how to handle the changes your body is experiencing. Shyama is a gynecologist who is trained in minimal invasive gynecology surgery as well as a certified menopause specialist. She has helped women navigate their families and careers while enhancing their quality of life. In tackling the topic of menopause, Marni and Shyama agree that it isn’t something that is discussed enough, and it’s important to bear in mind that different women experience it differently. The transition, which has both mental and physical symptoms, is a subject that needs to gain more traction as it affects all women at some point.
Menopause isn’t the big bad wolf
Not everyone experiences it in the same way
How to seek the right information on menopause
Does Our Fear Stem From Misinformation [09:36]
Menopause isn’t a topic typically discussed in the media. The information surrounding menopause and what women should expect isn’t as readily available as other topics. While there are a number of resources, you need to actively search for them as they won’t necessarily how up on your feed. While the average age for menopause is around 50. However, the symptoms for menopause can start manifesting themselves 5 to 7 years before that.
It isn’t actually an irrelevant topic for young women because I do think everyone should sort of know what’s coming down the road.
Don’t DIY it [13:00]
It’s important to find the proper channels and experts to guide you through it when you start experiencing symptoms that you’re not familiar with. When you’re in an age bracket where it is likely to be menopause, do your research and find an expert to help you navigate it and dissect whether the symptoms are a byproduct of menopause or something else.
Go for a consultation just like you would treat any other illness or problem. Go to a specialist for a special problem.
Know Your Options [22:28]
Educating yourself on your body is important, especially as a woman. It could save you a lot of otherwise unnecessary trouble. As women, we need to be aware of our options and that comes through education.
We have old information. We’re doing a huge disservice.
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Marni welcomes Leah Van Dolder to The Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses our relationship with food, perfectionism, and the line that separates success from failure. Leah is a mindset coach who has helped thousands of clients hit their weight goal while simultaneously leveling up their confidence and their energy, as well as achieving a stronger sense of self. Women often set high expectations for themselves, and while that might be good in a lot of cases, it can also be destructive when too much expectation is placed on a certain goal.
How to achieve your goal sustainably
The key is achievable goals
How to have that wake-up call
Allow Yourself to be Human [06:26]
Your mindset should be taking it one step at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself because that is not sustainable and will not get you to where you need to be. Rather than jump all in with unrealistic expectations, break up your goal into achievable steps. You are human, so allow yourself room for error.
What are those daily things that we can do? Such as drinking a liter of water before bed, blocking those workouts in your schedule, or having an appointment with yourself 3 days a week.
Listen to your soul [10:59]
When you feel a certain desire, one that is nagging at you, listen to it. It’s there for a reason. It’s meant to happen for you. But you need to be the one to make it a reality. Make time for what it is you want to achieve.
There’s never going to be a right time to make a change.
What’s Your Relationship with Food [18:20]
Examine your eating habits, look at your relationship with food. We all placate ourselves by reasoning with ourselves. Whether we’re overeating because we don’t want to waste food or we are invited out for dinner at a 5-star restaurant, there is always a way around these excuses.
When it comes to a choice of our own, I think to myself, ‘okay, who is living and feeling the consequence of my choice?
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Marni welcomes Naketa Ren to The Life Check Yourself where the duo talks about balancing life, love, and success as well as learning how to take pauses when you need them. Naketa is a podcast host, author, and the number one balance and relationship advisor globally. The powerhouse helps clients find that work-life balance, build a sustainable successful business while also prioritizing mental health and personal relationships. And it all starts with knowing when to slow down, and how to do it.
Give yourself permission to slow down
How to be mindful
How to leave an imprint on the world
The Multigenerational Imprint [10:17]
The multigenerational imprint that you leave on this planet begins with yourself. It stems from showing up as an individual that honors authenticity, transparency, and kindness. It’s by practicing all those qualities with yourself that you can then share them with others. Be kind to yourself, be transparent with yourself and be authentic and honest when looking inwards.
Authenticity is different from transparency. You could be very authentic and show up as fully who you are but not be transparent with why you are being that way.
How You Show Up Could be Killing You [15:47]
How do you speak to yourself? Is it with kindness? Or are you harsh on yourself? Focus on what it is you say to you because when you put yourself down, and stress yourself out, you’re not only unhealthy mentally but physically as well. Stress dictates a big part of our physical health. It accounts for a high percentage of non-congenital illnesses.
How you think of yourself and how you show up for yourself could be killing you slowly.
Imagine all of those hidden diseases and hidden illnesses that are stress-induced.
High Egos And Corporate Traumas [21:00]
It’s not a bad thing to have an ego, but it is bad to let your ego run the whole show. Unfortunately, we can’t change another person’s ego. What we can do is hold up a mirror to them but sometimes it’s not enough.
And in a work environment, your superiors' egos could be destructive to your mental well-being as well as those around you. But how do you galvanize the shift?
You can change how you react to the person while building your exit plan.
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Marni welcomes Dr.Ken Druck to the Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses how to heal from loss and use it to become a better version of yourself. Dr.Ken is a best-selling author who has coached leaders both in business and in government. Having gone through the tragic loss of his daughter Jenna, Dr.Ken managed to develop groundbreaking work that has helped bereaved families and taught people how to recuperate from life’s biggest losses.
- How do you go on?
- Putting your hand on your heart
- How to calibrate the plan
What Now? [06:50]
Move from harsh criticism to kind self-compassion. What you tell yourself is important, particularly after a loss. The narrative that you tell yourself is what will determine whether you’ll lift yourself up or whether you’ll sink and miss a potential opportunity to grow.
Of course, you don’t know what to do. How could you? You this is all new. How could you not feel fearful?
Begin by Learning [16:21]
The first step starts with you. To be compassionate with others, you need to first be compassionate with yourself. One you’ve practiced self-compassion, then you can turn it outwards and truly help those around you. Don’t repress the feelings you dislike but rather sit with them.
Nothing special has happened because it’s all special.
The Seven Honorings [20:22]
There are several ways to honor someone you’ve lost. Your own survival is one of them. You get to honor the person you’ve lost by being adamant on living, on surviving. Be stubborn about it. The second is doing something good in their name because that’s something that never dies. That is how you keep them alive beyond the physical world.
It clears the ability in us to take what began as the purest love then became an unspeakable sorrow and to turn it back into the purest love.
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