In this Life Check Yourself podcast, Marni facilitates a live coaching episode with Michelle. Michelle has been divorced for almost eight years. She has been dating for a while but seems to sabotage relationships when she starts falling for a guy because she is scared. Marni offers her some tools to use when she feels herself pulling away.
Key takeaways from this episode:
Michelle dates outgoing, professional guys who are fun to be with but elusive. They look good on paper and check all the boxes and should-haves. What is holding Michelle back is that internally she feels as soon as things start going well she will become disappointed. Therefore, she never achieves emotional intimacy with them, even after dating for a couple of years. This stems from having her feelings hurt and not feeling heard when she was a child.
There is a difference between being cautiously optimistic and having expectations.
Michelle doesn’t trust her feelings because no one validated her as a child. Deep down she fears abandonment. She recognizes she feels stuck and needs to nurture the little girl inside of her.
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Marni offers Michelle the tools to help her connect to her intuition and her essence. When she empowers herself to have the emotional intelligence she wants to have, she will feel emotionally safe and grounded. Marni reminds her that we attract who we are. If she is emotionally open, she will attract a man who is also emotionally open.
By creating our own emotional safety we start attracting people into our lives who are emotionally available.
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