Marni welcomes Jamie Cannon in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss how to recognize a narcissistic personality, what the tell-tale signs of a murky relationship are and how to get out of it. Jamie is a writer who focuses on trauma, anxiety and grief. She’s worked on empowering women particularly victims of abuse and domestic violence survivors.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Trust your instincts
- Know the signs
- How to recognize love bombing
Recognizing the Signs [04:02]
There is this misconception that associates being stuck in an abusive relationship with a lack of education. However, it can happen to anyone.
A lot of educated women fall either for narcissists or with personalities that have narcissistic tendencies. In the beginning of a relationship, the person they are attracted to either hides these tendencies or uses very sophisticated manipulation techniques.
Moreover, sometimes when a woman is adamant on what she wants, which is to settle down and build a future, it’s easy to overlook those subtle warning signs.
Women beat themselves thinking I should’ve seen it coming but really, should you have seen it coming?
Power and Control [07:20]
The beginning of a relationship blurs a lot of the way we perceive things. It is the phase where everything is exciting and rushed, which means that sometimes, we end up ignoring our intuition. Trust your instinct rather than making excuses for the person’s behavior. Many women tend to ignore their intuition because they have been taught to believe that they are oversensitive or that they read too much into things.
Narcissists, as we say, there’s no empathy there. So, their feelings are really the only feelings that matter.
Where Do We Find Their Value? [14:04]
A lot of women find their value externally. Learning how to find that value from an internal source is important. That is what gives you the freedom to walk away. Whereas somebody who gets their value externally, will be more inclined to stay and frame the situation as a life lesson.
At what point do we stop and say, hold on I know what I need to work on already. This guy does not know what I need to work on.
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Marni welcomes Dr. Sarah Hill in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss a myriad of topics including how hormones affect your identity and how you can stay sexy regardless of age. Dr. Sarah is an award-winning research psychologist and professor with an expertise in women, health, and sexual psychology. She was also featured in the Netflix documentary, The Principles of Pleasure and is a consultant for the dating site, Cougar Life.
Takeaways from this episode:
- How do your hormones affect your identity?
- Inner beauty is sexy
- Is taking hormones bad for you?
It’s not you, it’s your hormones [01:50]
Hormones not only affect our bodies, but our psyche as well. The hormonal transitions that women go through, which span from puberty to menopause and everything in between, have a cascading effect on their entire body including how they experience the world, and the ways in which they think and feel. Hormones can also cause an identity crisis because they are a part of what our brain uses to create the experience of being the person that we are.
You are your hormones. They aren’t just something that happens to you. They are a part of who you are.
Aging is the new 20s [08:58]
Culturally, there has always been this belief that ties women’s sexiness and attractiveness to youth. But these stereotypes are shifting as women are gaining more financial independence and embracing themselves at whatever age. As women gain more resources independently, and as a consequence more power over themselves, they become more attractive to men.
For a very long time, we were dependent on men. And what we’re starting to see [now] is that we have women who have access to their own financial resources and good jobs – and that feels powerful.
Bringing Sexy Back [14:30]
Beauty is only skin-deep…or so the old adage goes. And it turns out, it’s true, to an extent. Beauty comes from having value and feeling valuable. So, it’s important for women to find out, when they’re younger, what is it that they contribute and what is it that brings them value. Whether you’re a career woman or a stay-at-home parent, find out what it is that makes you come alive. People are at their most beautiful when they come alive. And that is something that lasts forever, regardless of age.
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Marni welcomes Polina Solda in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss how to find a partner that is just your type. Polina is the founder and CEO of Love by Design and podcast host of Find the Right man.
Takeaways from this episode:
- What’s your personality type?
- How to find the type that’s most compatible with you
- Your thoughts create your feelings
- How to train your brain
It’s Not Him; It’s His Personality Type (And Yours) [03:13]
Some matches are made in heaven; others are sealed in hell. But it’s actually nobody’s fault as it turns out. It’s more about compatibility. The number one reason for divorces is incompatibility.
But how do we figure it all out? The Eniostyle test.
The four personality types in the Eniostyle are North (logical, structured), East (wise, creative), South (emotional, pleasure-driven), and West (impact and growth-driven). And each type has a different mission.
So, for example, South is here to laugh and to feel, which means they have the tendency to be more anxious when it comes to attachment style. And that matters because if a woman who is South is attracted to a man who is East, then the relationship might not fare so well. East is creative, he’s the guy who is most commonly associated with breaking hearts; his interest shifts from one thing to the next. And he can be anxious-avoidant.
It’s in the Essence [ 14:07]
It isn’t just about compatibility, though. But when you’re fully aligned with who you are, you’re going to inevitably be magnetic to your dual partner. So, for example, when it comes to the West-type woman and the East-type man, it’s also important for the East-type man to be fully expressed and follow his path of mastery.
Going Back to Basics [18:40]
It’s important to identify yourself. And the first step towards that is thinking about your childhood. If you’re not really sure about who you are or why you are here, then look back to your natural strengths, which you’ll find in your childhood.
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