Marni welcomes Evan Marc Katz to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into what dating looks like today and how to navigate it. Why do women keep falling into the same patterns? How do you tap into your feelings?
Evan is a dating coach that has helped over 13 thousand women from all over the world. Having written 4 books, he is also a successful podcast host. In tackling the topic of dating at all ages, Evan explains what it means to find your person. It’s not just about the mantras but setting an action plan.
· Stay in the game
· Seek consciousness and intention
· How to be strong universally
Stop Focusing on Landing the Man [10:00]
We always think of dating as an accomplishment. Women tend to focus on landing the man rather than looking at how they feel. Face your emotions. Ask yourself how you feel within the relationship. It’s not about the man looking good on paper, it’s about the connection that is meant to come with that.
Do I feel safe, heard, and understood? Can I relax and let my guard down, and trust that he’ll be there for me and accept me in full?
Hope Springs Eternal [17:48]
People soften with age, they get better. They’re more self-aware, more supportive of each other. Life is peppered with examples of people who found love not only in the most unlikely places but later on in life as well. And you shouldn’t lose hope but you should set an action plan.
Hope springs eternal. So, my belief is that there’s enough good guys to warrant it, especially for women of a certain age who are surrounded by people who have given up on love.
Dump the Scarcity Thinking [23:12]
Stop doubting yourself If you’ve left your partner for all the right reasons. Trust yourself and start reframing it in your mind. It’s easy to fall into that pit of self-doubt, wondering whether you’ll ever be loved this way again or whether you’ll ever be treated this way again. You will. This relationship was just a stepping stone, it unlocked something in you.
Why would you treat him like he’s the last man on earth? So many people come back to coaching because they had something that was ill-fated, and it awakened something inside of them.
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Marni Marni welcomes Dr.Diane Mueller to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses sexual health, intimacy and how to get your sexy back. Dr.Diane is a podcast host who’s helped many women reclaim their vitality and jumpstart their libido. She also holds a doctorate in naturopathic medicine. Women often forget the importance of sex and the nuances that come with that kind of intimacy. However, sexual intimacy is one of the pillars for a good healthy life.
How does stress affect your sex drive?
Sex is a foundation of health
Why you should care about your libido
It’s All in the Hormones, Baby [08:01]
Stress affects men and women differently when it comes to their sex drive. Similarly, the hormones released by men and by women after being intimate have a different effect on each gender. Whereas men release vasopressin, which allows them to then become focused, women release oxytocin, which gives them the urge to be held.
What happens with stress is that stress will actually turn down oxytocin.
What’s Sex Got to do With it? [12:58]
Conversations surrounding sex and sexuality when it comes to women, for centuries, have been regarded as too taboo to talk about. It is only over the past decade or so, that these topics are being tackled more. And with good reason.
Being sexually intimate has proven to raise happiness levels and reduce anxiety. It also decreases social isolation and feelings of loneliness.
There’s some research that is connecting a proper healthy sex life with really maintaining the longevity of a happy relationship.
Be Present [19:18]
To actually enjoy pleasure means to be present in the moment. Sounds self-evident but many women will sometimes zone out during the act as their mind drifts off to the laundry list or the grocery list or something that needs to be done. And that’s because of the way the hormones released affect the brain. However, that’s a sign that you’re not in the present, that you’re not in the body.
The more we’re in that moment experiencing pleasure, the more oxytocin, the more stress resilience, the more happiness and all those things.
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Marni welcomes Laura Foster to the Life Check Yourself where the duo discusses what it means to be in alignment with your true self by un-programming yourself. Laura has been helping women through her movement Soul Healing Humanity, and through her technique Holistic Scaffolding, to unpack their bullshit and leave it behind. The maverick, who decided to cut the bullshit out of her own life, guides her clients into doing the same and finding a massive makeshift in their physical, mental, and spiritual well-being.
How to cut the bullshit
Stop the distractions
Be there for you
Is Your Unhappiness Seeping through? [04:40]
It seems evident but looking at your happiness, or lack thereof, is the first indicator of whether you need to make a change or not. And sometimes, you might not even know that you’re unhappy. While things might look great on the outside, and you’ve ticked all the boxes for what a successful happy life looks like, what’s underneath is what counts more.
When I’d stop all the doing and the busyness, and I would start to come into alignment with my true self, it was like that’s where a lot of unhappiness is coming from.
Who is Your True Self?[13:00]
Your true self is what’s underneath everything you’ve been programmed to believe; it’s underneath everything you’ve been conditioned into thinking you need to do; and it’s underneath all the human bullshit. And as you get closer to who your true self is, you get into your power. But that’s something only you can do.
To take back your power means to live in alignment with your true self.
Be Your Own Guru [20:38]
While it is beneficial to hear out other people or gurus, what ends up happening is that you replace one set of rules and dogma with another. However, the reality is, no one knows what’s best for you more than you do.
Once you learn this framework that gets you to where you’re your own guru, then you design a life that you love by you, for you.
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Marni welcomes Gillian Pothier to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo dissects what masculine energy and maleness actually mean. Gillian is a writer, a teacher, and a mentor who has helped women create fulfilling lifelong relationships with the men in their lives. And that extends to their romantic partners, their brothers, and their fathers. Her work centers around what becomes possible when you understand masculine and feminine energy.
We need to talk about dad
How to get right with the nature of maleness
Is it time to reclaim the source of patriarchy?
Going Back to Basics [03:35]
If you’re to start fixing or developing the masculine relationships in your lives, you need to look at the source code, the first template. And that’s the father figure. Women need to look back at what’s inside their systems because we project these same wounds unconsciously over and over again.
If we’re talking about a path of repair with men in the masculine, in our lives, we have to look at the OG.
Dethroning the Father [08:19]
Women do not understand men and maleness. The reality is that so many women continue to homogenize and feminize men. We want them to be like us. It’s important to cleanse ourselves from the distortions taught to us by a culture that degrades men in the masculine.
We tend to use feminine values and ethos and morals and preferences in our relationship with men to judge them as a good man.
Tough Love [14:15]
For what has happened to you as a little girl or throughout different stages of your life, it can easily be said that it wasn’t your responsibility. But the moment it lives in your nervous system and your constellation of beliefs, it becomes your responsibility.
It’s not about blaming women though. But it is about understanding that in order to have the experience that you want, this is an invitation by life or the divine to enter into a heroine’s journey and create.
We have developed a capitalistic socio-political word called the patriarchy. But patria means family.
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Marni welcomes Marie Garvey to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo talks about what it means for a woman to find her own voice and be in her own power, proudly. Marie is an entrepreneur, a motivational speaker and an executive and life coach who has empowered women to find success while being present in their power. From a young age, women are programmed into the good girl mentality. Marie helps them break free of that to become who they are meant to be today rather than who those around them have defined them as.
Our worth isn’t in other people’s hands
How to stop being uncomfortable with conflict
It’s a good girl rebellion
What Happens to the Good Girl? [07:52]
The Good Girl mentality breeds a form of constant expectations where you're always waiting to get a pat on the back or to be commended for doing the right thing. But the danger with that is what happens when you don’t get that pat on the back or the recognition for having been a “good.” And that usually results in women working harder, and thinking that if they just do more, they'll get it.
We’ve been told, ‘Don’t be too much,’ and we’re walking around being people pleasers and perfectionists all the time.
Step Into Your Feminine [15:14]
It is okay to be in your feminine and your masculine energy because both are valuable. But own your feminine energy because the world needs that. Women are better listeners and collaborators whereas men tend to see the world more in black and white. Hone in your feminine advantages and step into that energy.
I think every woman I’ve met, certainly every woman I work with has moderated their light to fit what they believe the world can handle of them.
You Got This [19:55]
When it comes to the workforce, a lot of women don’t trust their own capabilities or power. It’s this overwhelming sense of ‘I haven’t earned this.’
And it is that kind of mentality that stops them from putting their hat in the ring.
There are so many corporations that want women at the highest levels. And my biggest problem is convincing them that they’re ready for it.
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