Marni welcomes Veronica Amaya in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss how to elevate your relationship game and communicate with your partner in a way to get them to listen. Veronica is a relationship and dating coach, and the founder of the Conscious Relationship School. She has helped thousands of women and men overcome dating anxiety and break unhealthy relationship patterns.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Men are team players
- You attract what you believe
- How to communicate softly
Leave Your Judgment at the Door [05:15]
Sometimes, the blame that women attribute to men stems from a place of self-protection and self-preservation. However, when you date with these negative stereotypes about men living in the back of your mind, you end up interpreting everything your partner does through that lens.
You also end up attracting the type of person you fear most.
If you believe a certain thing then you’re going to have that experience. We have to look at how you create those new beliefs that will reflect what you want.
Trust Him to Lead [13:00]
It’s important for the man in a relationship to feel really strong in himself so that he can be secure in the knowledge that he is capable of handling things.
When you start putting more trust in your partner, very often he’s going to show up in ways you didn’t expect.
I think once the butterflies and rainbow part of a relationship is over, these are the things that can sabotage a really good relationship.
The Medium is the Message [19:00]
It’s about communicating softly. It’s in the way you say things. That doesn’t mean that you need to stay silent but rather that you need to say things in a kind and soft way.
Many women go immediately into anger. Men are usually logic-oriented. So, if you give him this problem to fix, he will respond.
Sometimes that means that you won’t get your needs met immediately. Sometimes, you’re going to have a lot of pain that comes up too. That’s part of softness.
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Marni welcomes Silvia Quintella in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss how to clear your path of energy you’ve been holding onto from previous experiences to begin embracing your authentic self. Silvia is an entrepreneur and a certified transformational life coach who has found her passion in energy healing and helping others. She’s guided many women in their journey towards finding their authentic selves and following their intuition.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Find safety in your authenticity
- How to get to the root cause
- Disconnect from that ex
Release That Energy…it’s Holding you Back [06:03]
Coming out of a relationship or a divorce can leave us feeling emotionally imbalanced and energetically depleted. As women move towards middle age, it is particularly questions like, “Will I fall in love again?”, “Am I lovable enough?” that start plaguing them.
However, it’s vital to release the energetic force that they’ve carried during and as a result of that former relationship, or in some cases, from all those former relationships.
Find a balance between body, mind, and soul. It’s not just what my mind wants but what my soul wants.
Give the Order [22:50]
To talk to your spiritual team, you don’t need to meditate or do a particular ritual. Just close your eyes, put your hand on your heart, and say, ‘I know what I’m going through and I deserve better. You know I deserve better, so take the lead.’
And that order rewires your brain.
You touch your heart to silence the ego mind.
Trust Yourself [29:02]
Learn to develop trust in yourself. Usually, we have trust issues because the inner child has something that is missing. We need to acknowledge that little girl’s vulnerabilities and weaknesses. We need to explore where they stem from and why.
Next is identifying where we feel it in our body.
Imagine that thing is being removed from every single cell in your body.
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Marni welcomes Frank E Legette III in the Life Check Yourself studio, where they discuss the most common mistakes women make when it comes to relationships and how to improve said relationships, or rather how to know if it’s time to call it quits. Frank is a life coach for women, a pastor and author of the book, The Art of Womanhood. He’s been providing guidance for single women who are looking for a loving relationship for years and empowering them to leave toxic relationships and find their happiness.
Takeaways from this episode:
- Don’t chase him
- How to keep the power
- What is he working for?
Don’t Put him in the Driver’s Seat [15:03]
Using a metaphor, Frank explains that when in a car ride, it is the driver that determines the speed and the direction of the journey. Similarly, in a relationship, it is the driver that is the pursued and the passenger that is the pursuer. Following that logic, one of the main mistakes women make is that they put the man in the driver seat of the relationship before he has earned the right to occupy that space. When the man is in the driver’s seat, he is given the power to determine the direction of the relationship.
She doesn’t know if he’s capable of loving her the way she wants to be loved. And all of a sudden, he’s in the driver’s seat. He determines how quickly this relationship goes..
Broken Heart Syndrome [24:25]
Can a broken heart lead to health complications? Frank elaborates that it has been found that having broken spirit, or rather being unhappy can lead to a series of medical complications, especially among women. And for many women, this source of unhappiness can stem from a toxic relationship. When a woman is unhappy or stressed, two hormones are secreted: adrenaline and cortisol. And these can lead to health complications.
It affects more women than it does men because they refuse not to be loved by the man that they pledged their loyalty and fealty too. And it affects their happiness.
Build a Solid Foundation [30:06]
Women assume that men know how they want to be treated and how they want to be loved. However, it is the woman herself who is the only one that knows how she wants to be loved and treated – men don’t know, regardless of how many relationships they’ve been in.
When you start a new relationship, you’re building a foundation. And if you make it to the altar, on the wedding day, you don’t get a new foundation.
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Marni welcomes Aaron Johnson to the Life Check Yourself studio where they discuss the importance of feeling your feels. The duo delves into the ways in which to hold that space for someone who might not have been socialized into expressing themselves in a healthy manner. Aaron is the co-founder of Holistic Resistance and Grief to Action where he works to help facilitate the healing process for men, particularly within BIPOC communities. How does one heal trauma and process it in a healthy way? And where do we start?
Takeaways from this episode:
- Why crying is a necessary release
- What is tender platonic touching?
- How to feel your feels
Platonic Touching [08:40]
In the exceedingly masculine culture that is America, many men suffer from what Aaron has termed being “chronically under-touched.” What that means is that they did not have enough tender platonic touching growing up. And this manifests in a certain way in one’s adult life.
Tenderness for men, with men, lands in our body initially as violence. It feels like violence, and violence feels like normal. We have to heal that trauma.
Let Him Build Creativity [13:15]
When men aren’t coming from a chronically under-touched state, they are able to be more present within a relationship. But how does one nurture that side of themselves? One of the ways is through creativity.
Now, that does not mean that as women, we need to do this for our partners but rather it means we need to be supportive of them while allowing them to do it on their own. This is a part of their growth.
It’s so important to practice being a good witness but not going in and rescuing right away.
Release and Repair [19:20]
Releasing and repairing are cornerstones of healing. Somatic experiences aid in the release necessary for healing trauma. Music is a somatic discharge experience. While it has historically been used as a means for healing, particularly within POC communities, music has recently become part of mainstream mental health toolkit.
And for good reason, it is a method that is inspiring and profound.
We don’t have a life design in America to actually take somatic healing in its full depth; we’re taking sip of it but we don’t actually have a life design.
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Marni welcomes Mick Heyman to the Life Check Studio where they discuss sound money management. The duo delves into how to manage your finances while staying mellow. Mick is the CFA and founder of Heyman Investments and has been working in wealth investments for over 40 years. A lot of people struggle when it comes to growing and organizing their wealth which inevitably leads to stress. But what are actually the best practices? And where does one start? More importantly how do we deal with our finances while still retaining our chill?
Takeaways from this episode:
- How to stay mellow
- Don’t completely listen to the headlines
- Look back to understand
Examine Your Own Emotions [12:06]
Every single person is unique. What one person can handle; another might not be able to. So, when making certain financial decisions, look at your own emotions and assess what risks you are able to take. It’s equally important to bear in mind that regardless of how much you prepare, surprises will occur. And when they do, you need to have strong hands.
Nobody should have more stock than their sleeping level.
Pay Yourself First [22:40]
Paying yourself first means that wherever that check is coming from, it’s vital to first start by putting a little something away. And that practice eventually becomes a habit that you take with you.
Think of it as money buckets. You put money into those depending on what you want to grow and what you’re okay with risking. For example, one bucket could be for your dream house while the other could be for house maintenance and so on. A little bit of knowledge goes a long way.
Knowing what you own can really help you.
Money, Money, Money [29:02]
It’s important to be patient and to acknowledge that there will be times where you won’t necessarily be hitting your target. There are certain aspects you can control and others that you can’t. The market is one of the things, for example, that you can’t control, and that’s something you need to accept.
In the end, look at what the long-term can do for you, and you’ll relax.
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