Marni welcomes Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur, and Business Advisor, Fred Joyal to the Life Check Yourself mobile studio. Fred’s book, Superbold: From Under Confident to Charismatic in 90 Days is a step-by-step guide for having a successful and happy life. You will be inspired to embrace life after listening!
Key takeaways from this episode:
Boldness can be learned
Communication mistakes
Taking risks and action
How to be bold by default
What Does it Mean to Be Superbold? [2:10]
Confidence is how you feel. Boldness is what you do. A common misconception is that boldness is something we are born with. But, boldness can be learned much faster than most people think. Fred admits that he is an introvert and having fun and taking risks was not part of his life before figuring it all out. He says it can be part of everyone's life with very little effort.
Boldness is confidence in action.
Superbold is the ability to bring boldness and confidence to action when it matters most. If you are confident around co-workers, family, and friends but when it is crucial you exert boldness in a social situation you have a hard time speaking up or taking action.
The Power Tools of Boldness [6:59]
Actively listening to someone with no response planned makes a huge difference when making someone feel comfortable with you. Smiling and making eye contact will keep most people engaged with you, Fred says. People notice if there is an ulterior motive in a conversation and they are instantly repelled by it.
A Superbold power tool is going into a situation and being present for the experience itself without thinking about the outcome you want.
It's easy to project things on other people. It's better to find out who the person actually is without hoping they are the person of our dreams. Take your time and get to know someone. Fred says to be sure to say your exit line while you still have eye contact, not as you are turning and walking away. Turning too fast can transmit disinterest.
A conversation during a date doesn’t have to be a ping pong match.
Building the Boldness Muscle: The PRIDE Method [23:30]
Chasing your dreams should make you proud. In nursing homes, more seniors regret the stuff they didn’t try more than making bad decisions. That’s what is gnawing at them in their final days, actions they didn’t take.
The PRIDE Method:
Preparation — prepare what you are going to say
Relaxing — check in with your body and shed your anxiety
Insight — make the choice not to panic when something happens
Dosage — control the intensity of your experience
Everyday Action — do something bold every day
The great secret in life is — trying and failing feels almost as good as trying and succeeding.
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Superbold: From Under-Confident to Charismatic in 90 Days